Most people fail when they attempt to get back with their ex because they make several fundamental errors immediately following the breakup.
If you are letting your emotions make decisions for you, chances are, you are making all the classic mistakes and your actions are ensuring that you'll never get another chance with this person.
One of the worst things you can do is to pester your ex partner right after the breakup.
While you might have an overwhelming urge to contact them, this is absolutely the worst thing you can do.
Contacting your ex immediately after a breakup (in other words, after they dumped you) and attempting to reconcile, puts you at such a psychological disadvantage that there is no way there could ever be a positive outcome.
The only way this would work is if your ex wasn't really serious about ending the relationship in the first place - and that's not too likely.
If we know that contacting an ex immediately after a breakup is sure to make things worse, then why do we do it? Why do we instinctively follow the urge to phone, text, or otherwise contact them when we know that we are simply digging ourselves a bigger hole? Don't beat yourself up too much.
After all, you're fighting your natural instinct here.
If you've been dumped, getting over a relationship is like getting over an addiction.
You will do anything in your power to get that old familiar feeling back - even if it means ignoring all common sense.
You are addicted to the relationship, and you are addicted to your ex.
Your irrational behavior, and attempt to patch things up, is a desperate attempt to continue something that makes you feel great.
Of course, your ex will pick up on this desperation in a second - and therein lies the problem.