It appears you're all tense and anxious about whether to talk to an ex boyfriend or how to talk to him. Well he's someone you knew once upon a time so there's no need to hesitate and worry. These guidelines would help you talk to an ex boyfriend.
Just don't show any desperation
Do not show any desperation or send out any indications that you're getting desperate to talk to him. Be around though in a very casual manner and talk to him as though there has been nothing really wrong between the two of you.
Stay where you are if he walks up
Staying just where you are when he happens to walk up to you, may be a signal from him too that he'd like to talk casually with you. The talk definitely should not be about your break up or what your misunderstanding was about.
General conversation
The conversation between you should be very general or about goings on in your lives. Try not to touch very personal or sensitive issues, but you could show concern about professional well being on either side and about the family in general.
Be comfortable and at ease
You should attempt to be comfortable and at ease and make your ex boyfriend too feel comfortable in being around with you. Once you both begin to relax and talk and laugh it will improve things between you. It will perhaps encourage you both to talk things out.
Call him the next time
If you both had been comfortable in each other's company the last time then it would be in perfect order to call your ex boyfriend and find out how he is. Let some time go by between this call and the last time you had spoken. It might renew the sparks.
Invite him for a celebration
You could be having a get together to celebrate a birthday or some other occasion so go ahead and invite your ex boyfriend for it. If he too has the intention of repairing issues between you both, then he will accept and come by. You both would tide over the tension fast.
You could now talk things over
Now that you both have reached a level of comfort and friendliness again, it will be easier for you to talk things over about getting back together. And if you find that he is already over the problem and behaves as though nothing was amiss between you, then forget everything and resume your relationship as earlier.
Just don't show any desperation
Do not show any desperation or send out any indications that you're getting desperate to talk to him. Be around though in a very casual manner and talk to him as though there has been nothing really wrong between the two of you.
Stay where you are if he walks up
Staying just where you are when he happens to walk up to you, may be a signal from him too that he'd like to talk casually with you. The talk definitely should not be about your break up or what your misunderstanding was about.
General conversation
The conversation between you should be very general or about goings on in your lives. Try not to touch very personal or sensitive issues, but you could show concern about professional well being on either side and about the family in general.
Be comfortable and at ease
You should attempt to be comfortable and at ease and make your ex boyfriend too feel comfortable in being around with you. Once you both begin to relax and talk and laugh it will improve things between you. It will perhaps encourage you both to talk things out.
Call him the next time
If you both had been comfortable in each other's company the last time then it would be in perfect order to call your ex boyfriend and find out how he is. Let some time go by between this call and the last time you had spoken. It might renew the sparks.
Invite him for a celebration
You could be having a get together to celebrate a birthday or some other occasion so go ahead and invite your ex boyfriend for it. If he too has the intention of repairing issues between you both, then he will accept and come by. You both would tide over the tension fast.
You could now talk things over
Now that you both have reached a level of comfort and friendliness again, it will be easier for you to talk things over about getting back together. And if you find that he is already over the problem and behaves as though nothing was amiss between you, then forget everything and resume your relationship as earlier.
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