Believe it or not, you could have smothered your partner to death, and now have to figure out ways to get your ex back.
It's important that you understand the needs of both of you can be distinctly different.
You may need to smother in order to feel loved, while they may need space in order to feel loved and want to be with you.
Most of the time when a partner has used the word smothered, it means that they have not had the space in a relationship that they need in order to be themselves.
Usually, those who smother are feeling threatened by something within the relationship.
Of course, there are those individuals who like to be really close anyway, and in that case, perhaps this relationship is not going to work out no matter what to do.
If it's a case of feeling insecure, the partner who feels smothered needs to give the other partner more security and when they feel secure, their partner will give them space.
Space has a variety of different meanings to different people in a relationship.
Some people would like to go out with their friends once in awhile, visit their family without their partner, or even just curl up and read a book without paying attention to anyone.
Others consider space a weekend away, not seeing you for days at a time, or even not talking on the phone.
It's all according to the individual as to what space actually means.
In order to solve the problem of smothering and space, you need to have a long conversation about each other's definition of space.
Once you both have understandings according to what space actually means, you can begin to solve the problems.
Communication is going to be the key, and you'll need to have long talks with both of you actually hearing each other before you're able to solve the issues.
If either one of you are not good at communication, perhaps counseling is in order.
You cannot solve the issue of space without communication.
In order to get your ex back and if they've said that you need to give them space, in order to understand exactly what your partners speaking of, you need to understand what space means to them.
It's not difficult to offer someone the space they need if you understand that this need has a finite end.
Most people who want space, only want it for a short period of time.
So you can expect that once you have given your partners space, that they're going to come back to you.
If you want your ex back and they are asking for space, first you're going to have to understand what they mean by space.
Then you can begin to work on the underlying issues that cause them to want space in the first place and get your ex back.