If your ex dumped you, there's no doubt that your life is filled with stress and anxiety at the moment.
Going through a breakup is a horrible time for anyone.
Did you notice how many people are more than willing to give their opinion in the aftermath of the split? While it's nice to know that people care about us, you must also learn that not everyone is giving you sound advice.
And it doesn't matter if this advice is coming from a friend or family member - bad advice is still bad advice.
This puts you in an awkward position because, more than anything, you want to believe everything they're saying, but in the back of your mind, you realize that they may not be speaking from experience or have much knowledge when it comes to breakups.
Advice is cheap and everyone has an opinion.
So what should you do? While it's natural to want to hear only good news, you should think about who you're taking advice from.
This should be fairly easy if you know the person well.
Do they have a lot of experience dating different people? Are they older, and hence, have more experience? Or are they simply trying to make you feel better? It's easy to sit back and dole out advice if the situation is not happening to you.
It's quite a different thing, though, when you're in the midst of a highly emotional situation with your ex.
In fact, in your emotional state, some advice might be very impractical.
Some might be very damaging to your relationship.
That's why the number one thing to consider when taking anyone's advice is, "how much experience do they have, personally?" If you don't know anyone who is experienced enough to trust, it may be time to consult a professional counselor - or someone trained to provide advice to people in this situation.
The advantage would be that you're following tried-and-true methods and concentrating your efforts in the right direction.
Though it may not be cheap, you can save a lot of time and personal anguish by listening to an expert in this field.