So you want to save a relationship, save a marriage, or get an ex back, do you? Well if you want your relationship to last you'll need to understand the ugly truthful relationship rules that are essential to ensuring your relationship endures.
No one likes to talk about these ugly truths because they seem sexist and arcane, but ignore them and you'll soon wish you hadn't.
Rule # 1: For Men to Understand If women do not respect a man's intelligence the relationship will not work.
This doesn't mean the man has to be smarter than the woman, although that would make things easier, it means his overall worldly intelligence must be superior to hers or she will not trust his ability to make critical decisions.
Regardless of what anyone has told you in every relationship there will be life altering decisions that must be made and one of the people in the relationship will be the decider.
If it isn't the man the relationship will have problems.
But you say, nowadays relationships especially marriages are a partnership, decision-making is a thoughtful discussion of the pros and cons of an issue and then a decision is reached, if there is a conflict a compromise is reached that benefits both parties and the issue is resolved satisfactorily.
Nonsense! In the real world the man must have the final say for major life decisions for the family, because if the decision turns out to have been the wrong one, it is his sole responsibility to fix the problem whatever it takes.
Now women will argue this as being outdated, but they will have to admit (if only to themselves), that they would rather be with a man who can take control of a situation, make a decision with confidence and certainty, and makes her comfortable with going along with that decision because she believes that if something goes wrong he'll make it right.
Women are more that capable of making these decisions and resolving problems if something goes wrong, but the truth is they don't want to take on that responsibility if they don't have to, and the ugly truth is if the man they are with isn't capable or willing to to take on that role, then she doesn't really want or need him in her life...
ouch!!! So if you want your relationship to work, the man must be strong, decisive, and confident, or sooner or the relationship is probably not going to last.
Rule #2: For Women to Understand A man needs a woman to be a pain in the a$$, but to understand when,where and how to use it.
Men instinctively know that the squeaky wheel gets the oil, but it is not in their nature to push, shove, make waves or complain when little things don't go their way.
Men are taught as young boys to suck it up, and that life isn't fair, to just deal with it.
Women however have made an art out of making sure them and theirs are treated fairly in every instance, and if something is unfair they'll find out who to talk to to get things fixed.
A man will not be with a woman he doesn't believe will make sure that his children will receive all the opportunities available to other children.
He wants a woman who will not let the family be left out simply because she wouldn't speak out.
That doesn't mean being loud or indignant, it means persistent and consistent.
She also has to make him want to be a better man than he would probably be if left on his own, but she must do this not with a push, but with a nudge.
The truth is most men are motivated by what they can provide for their love one's.
The ugly truth is they won't be faithful to or stay with a woman that doesn't motivate them to be the best they can be.
That is why nice women often lose out to bitchy complaining women when it comes to men, it's not because men like the abuse they receive from the complainers, it is because the nice woman doesn't motivate them.
What men really want is a good women, a mixture of nice and bitchy.
So are these rules and ugly truths universal? Well there are always exceptions, but if you are trying to save a relationship, save a marriage, or wonder why your relationships all seem to fail, take a look at these areas and you might find the answer and solution to your problems.
No one likes to talk about these ugly truths because they seem sexist and arcane, but ignore them and you'll soon wish you hadn't.
Rule # 1: For Men to Understand If women do not respect a man's intelligence the relationship will not work.
This doesn't mean the man has to be smarter than the woman, although that would make things easier, it means his overall worldly intelligence must be superior to hers or she will not trust his ability to make critical decisions.
Regardless of what anyone has told you in every relationship there will be life altering decisions that must be made and one of the people in the relationship will be the decider.
If it isn't the man the relationship will have problems.
But you say, nowadays relationships especially marriages are a partnership, decision-making is a thoughtful discussion of the pros and cons of an issue and then a decision is reached, if there is a conflict a compromise is reached that benefits both parties and the issue is resolved satisfactorily.
Nonsense! In the real world the man must have the final say for major life decisions for the family, because if the decision turns out to have been the wrong one, it is his sole responsibility to fix the problem whatever it takes.
Now women will argue this as being outdated, but they will have to admit (if only to themselves), that they would rather be with a man who can take control of a situation, make a decision with confidence and certainty, and makes her comfortable with going along with that decision because she believes that if something goes wrong he'll make it right.
Women are more that capable of making these decisions and resolving problems if something goes wrong, but the truth is they don't want to take on that responsibility if they don't have to, and the ugly truth is if the man they are with isn't capable or willing to to take on that role, then she doesn't really want or need him in her life...
ouch!!! So if you want your relationship to work, the man must be strong, decisive, and confident, or sooner or the relationship is probably not going to last.
Rule #2: For Women to Understand A man needs a woman to be a pain in the a$$, but to understand when,where and how to use it.
Men instinctively know that the squeaky wheel gets the oil, but it is not in their nature to push, shove, make waves or complain when little things don't go their way.
Men are taught as young boys to suck it up, and that life isn't fair, to just deal with it.
Women however have made an art out of making sure them and theirs are treated fairly in every instance, and if something is unfair they'll find out who to talk to to get things fixed.
A man will not be with a woman he doesn't believe will make sure that his children will receive all the opportunities available to other children.
He wants a woman who will not let the family be left out simply because she wouldn't speak out.
That doesn't mean being loud or indignant, it means persistent and consistent.
She also has to make him want to be a better man than he would probably be if left on his own, but she must do this not with a push, but with a nudge.
The truth is most men are motivated by what they can provide for their love one's.
The ugly truth is they won't be faithful to or stay with a woman that doesn't motivate them to be the best they can be.
That is why nice women often lose out to bitchy complaining women when it comes to men, it's not because men like the abuse they receive from the complainers, it is because the nice woman doesn't motivate them.
What men really want is a good women, a mixture of nice and bitchy.
So are these rules and ugly truths universal? Well there are always exceptions, but if you are trying to save a relationship, save a marriage, or wonder why your relationships all seem to fail, take a look at these areas and you might find the answer and solution to your problems.
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