When you have lost the love of your life, you find everyday to be the worst day of your life. The longer you are without him, the harder it gets. If you feel this way, then you are on your way to getting your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again. You would not feel the way you do if you were not observing the no contact rule. You are giving him the space he said he needed and he will respect you for it. To help you along in your vow to leave him alone, remember that love never completely dies, and your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you and you can use them to get back into his heart.
Without knowing it, you are preparing to use a tactic that always works to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again. This tactic will not work if you are constantly in his face and making him do everything in the world to avoid you. Being pushy and demanding will only alienate him and push him farther away from you. So, you need to get your emotions under control because when you are ready to use this tactic, you will have to appear perfectly relaxed and act as if the breakup never happened.
Speaking of emotions, in the course of a relationship, you can go through most of them. The positive ones of friendship and love and the negative ones of indifference and hate. Most relationships start out with friendship that leads to love; when they end, it can be indifference leading to dislike or hate. To get your ex back, you have to have contact with him again, but not the kind of contact where you are trying to talk him into loving you again. This is like barging in his front door and demanding that he give you his heart.
To make him love you again, you will have to be a little more subtle and sneak in the back door. You can win his heart the same way you did before. By first becoming his friend. Since you have shown him respect by giving him the space he asked for, he is no doubt having good thoughts of you. This would be an opportune time to call him and ask how things are going. Do not mention the breakup. Keep the conversation on him and if he has problems, he will he will tell you of them. Do not try to solve his problems, just sympathize with him.
You will need to be careful not to rush things. Do not be calling him all the time. If he does not hear from you for a while, he will call you. This is what you want. Get him into the habit of relying on you and enjoy sharing his life with you again.
Without knowing it, you are preparing to use a tactic that always works to get your ex boyfriend back and make him love you again. This tactic will not work if you are constantly in his face and making him do everything in the world to avoid you. Being pushy and demanding will only alienate him and push him farther away from you. So, you need to get your emotions under control because when you are ready to use this tactic, you will have to appear perfectly relaxed and act as if the breakup never happened.
Speaking of emotions, in the course of a relationship, you can go through most of them. The positive ones of friendship and love and the negative ones of indifference and hate. Most relationships start out with friendship that leads to love; when they end, it can be indifference leading to dislike or hate. To get your ex back, you have to have contact with him again, but not the kind of contact where you are trying to talk him into loving you again. This is like barging in his front door and demanding that he give you his heart.
To make him love you again, you will have to be a little more subtle and sneak in the back door. You can win his heart the same way you did before. By first becoming his friend. Since you have shown him respect by giving him the space he asked for, he is no doubt having good thoughts of you. This would be an opportune time to call him and ask how things are going. Do not mention the breakup. Keep the conversation on him and if he has problems, he will he will tell you of them. Do not try to solve his problems, just sympathize with him.
You will need to be careful not to rush things. Do not be calling him all the time. If he does not hear from you for a while, he will call you. This is what you want. Get him into the habit of relying on you and enjoy sharing his life with you again.
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