If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, remember the 80/20 rule: twenty percent of your efforts (to save your relationship) will be responsible for eighty percent of your success (at getting him back).
This means that 80% of the things you say and do to try to get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship will be a waste of time.
And since time is of the essence - the window of opportunity to save your relationship and get your ex boyfriend back is only going to be open for a little while - you can't afford to waste any time doing anything that will not lead directly to getting him back.
So if you want to take the shortest and surest route to getting your ex boyfriend back and saving your relationship, make sure you make a "triple play.
" "Play" Hard to Get Guys love a challenge.
And they want what they can't have.
If you're like most gals you've probably known this since you were small.
But under the circumstances of a broken relationship, you may have forgotten all about this helpful little fact.
So you've probably been making an effort to make sure your ex boyfriend knows that you're available to him whenever and wherever he wants.
If you want to save your relationship and get your ex boyfriend back, you've got cool things.
Not totally (that would make the next parts of the "triple play" to get him back all but impossible), but you've certainly got to minimize contact and allow it to happen only on your terms (when, where, and for how long you say).
"Play" up to His Ego Guys have big egos.
And they love them to be stroked.
Nothing drives a guy wild with desire more than being flattered and complimented by a gal who's playing hard to get.
So on those few occasions when you do "allow" some contact to happen - not physical contact (no way at this point) but contact via text, phone, or even an in-person (but public) meeting - tell him he looks good, tell him that what he's wearing really makes his "X" look good (you decide on what the "X" is that looks good enough to compliment him on), tell him anything that plays up to his ego without going overboard - and without gushing.
"Play" the Other Man Card If you've been following the first two plays of the "triple play," you should be about two-thirds of the way towards your goal of getting your ex boyfriend back and saving your relationship.
Your final "play" leverages off of the fact that no guy wants to see his ex girlfriend moving on - especially when she seems to still have feelings for him ("why is she paying me all those compliments whenever we talk?") and seems to be strangely out of reach to him now ("she used to be there all the time for me, now it seems like I'm sitting by the phone waiting for her to call").
What you need to do is to create an image of yourself having moved on and leading an interesting new life - one that appears to be filled with things that your ex boyfriend couldn't give you.
You don't want to do this directly because it will appear suspicious, so either use friends the two of you have in common to get the word out to him or, better still, post updates on Facebook periodically (e.
g.
, "had a great time at 'X' last night! The lobster was amazing!" "Packing for a weekend trip to wine country...
can't wait for the first tasting!").
If you can add some photos to your Facebook updates, the effect on your ex boyfriend will be even more powerful.
So there you have it: the "triple play" to get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship.
Use it well and you'll find yourself in control of the situation and the future of your relationship.