Are you thinking that your relationship is a failure because you and your partner are not following certain relationship "rules" or meeting certain standards or "by-laws"?In the first part of this article series, I have presented the top 3 relationship myths in my previous article: MYTH #1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = THERE MUST BE TELEPATHY AS GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE MYTH #2: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = A BREATH-TAKING ROMANCE MYTH #3: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = SOLVING ALL PROBLEMS IN A RELATIONSHIP In this second part of the series, I will present to you the next 3 most common relationship myths.
Let's start debunking the next 3 MYTHS! MYTH #4: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = THERE MUST BE COMMON INTERESTS Many people mistakenly believes that in a relationship, there must be some common interests as the Hollywood movies always portray the guy and gal shares a great love in many common interests.
It is important to recognise that there is really nothing wrong with your relationship and perfectly alright if a couple does not share common interests and activities.
Imagine the girl asking the guy to bake a cake together when the guy cannot even crack an egg or vice-versa.
If both parties force each other to engage in common activities.
the concluding results are stress, tension and conflict.
MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = NO QUARRELS I have a gal friend who told me that his boyfriend does not love her anymore.
I asked her why she thought so.
She told me that her boyfriend would always give in to her and he would not quarrel with her.
Recently, her boyfriend has quarrelled with her and thus she comes to this conclusion.
Some thought that it's a sign of cracks showing up in a relationship.
As a matter of fact, every couple argues at some time in their lives.
In any argument, the most important thing is to tackle the issue and not belittling or attacking the worth of the other party.
MYTH #6: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING TO YOUR PARTNER BECAUSE IT'S IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT Sometimes in the heat of the moment and both parties are angry, we often let emotions run the better of us.
Saying things which we do not really mean is damaging to both parties.
If you do not mean what you say, do not say it.
When you feel that you are feeling spiteful, take a deep breath and hold for 3 seconds.
With a clear head, unwanted negative emotions can be prevented.
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Let's start debunking the next 3 MYTHS! MYTH #4: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = THERE MUST BE COMMON INTERESTS Many people mistakenly believes that in a relationship, there must be some common interests as the Hollywood movies always portray the guy and gal shares a great love in many common interests.
It is important to recognise that there is really nothing wrong with your relationship and perfectly alright if a couple does not share common interests and activities.
Imagine the girl asking the guy to bake a cake together when the guy cannot even crack an egg or vice-versa.
If both parties force each other to engage in common activities.
the concluding results are stress, tension and conflict.
MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = NO QUARRELS I have a gal friend who told me that his boyfriend does not love her anymore.
I asked her why she thought so.
She told me that her boyfriend would always give in to her and he would not quarrel with her.
Recently, her boyfriend has quarrelled with her and thus she comes to this conclusion.
Some thought that it's a sign of cracks showing up in a relationship.
As a matter of fact, every couple argues at some time in their lives.
In any argument, the most important thing is to tackle the issue and not belittling or attacking the worth of the other party.
MYTH #6: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING TO YOUR PARTNER BECAUSE IT'S IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT Sometimes in the heat of the moment and both parties are angry, we often let emotions run the better of us.
Saying things which we do not really mean is damaging to both parties.
If you do not mean what you say, do not say it.
When you feel that you are feeling spiteful, take a deep breath and hold for 3 seconds.
With a clear head, unwanted negative emotions can be prevented.
=)
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