Cheating and relationships are like two sides of the same coin, nearly all of us have know of someone that is cheating or being cheated on.
It may be that you have had someone cheat on you or even that you were the one who was doing the cheating.
The point that I am trying to make is that it is a more common problem than you might imagine.
Cheating hurts everyone concerned the cheated and the cheater.
The cheated feels hurt because it has happened to them and they probably thought it never would, they may even feel foolish because they think everyone knew about it and they did not find out till last.
The cheater can be hurt by the fact that they have deceived everybody, told lies and kept secrets which is very stressful.
Once the cheating is over how can the one cheated on ever be sure it will not happen again? Can you get over it? Can you get back together again? The cheater has a lot of work to do to rebuild the trust in the relationship and when this does happen the relationship can frequently be stronger and closure than before the affair.
Just keep in mind that experience show that in some cases the cheater is unable or unwilling to resist the temptation to do it all over again.
In order too seal this renewed relationship it is essential that you know why the affair happened so that you can both work on the causes that lead to the affair.
Failure to do this will only increase the changes of it happening again.
There can be many reasons but possibly the most pathetic reason is that your partner was bored on that day and an opportunity was offered to them and they did not have the strength to refuse.
If this happens then it may be that their weakness of character has been made clear to you so you may find it very hard to forgive them and remain happy.
If your relationship was going through some problems at the time of the affair, there may even have been a hint in the air that you were going to finish anyway.
If that is the case then, though still very wrong, there may be some way you may feel that you some how undervalued or ignored your partner and in part be responsible whether you were or not.
This may make an opening for you both to get to work on rebuilding the relationship and sorting out your problems.
No two people are ever alike and this goes for couple relationships as well, a circumstance that will be devastating to one couple another couple will be able to pick their relationship back up and move on.
The point is that if you cannot rebuild the trust quickly then any remnants of the relationship will make you both miserable and increase the chances of it happening again.
So in this case were you are constant suspicious that the person will cheat on you again, then you must either move on or decide that you will trust them not to hurt you again, let go of that fear and rebuild your relationship no matter what.