Don't ask me why, but it is extremely common for a woman to say that she wants to be friends after breaking up, and this can cause some real confusion if you still have feelings for her and the hopes that the two of you will get back together.
A lot of the time, it just has to do with the fact that a woman does not want to leave things on bad terms with an ex boyfriend, and saying that she wants to be friends seems like a solution where there will be no hard feelings.
What if you want to get your ex girlfriend back and she wants to be friends, what should you do? Does The Friends Thing Lead to Something More? Well, my first suggestion is that you should say something along the lines of sure, why not? Something like that.
The thing is, you need to have the mindset where you know that you are not going to be her 'friend,' you want to be something more.
What I mean is, you want to be cordial about it, but at the same time, not actually do any friends kinds of things.
No hanging out, no talking about guys she likes, none of that stuff.
The problem with being her friend and acting like one is-- she will think of you as being a 'non sexual' being.
Meaning your face and the words sex will never cross paths again.
See, most women refer to guys that they hang out with and would never date as being friends.
And they will also refer to guys that they like and WOULD date as friends until something happens between the two of them.
The second one is the one that you want to be.
The first kind of friend, that is the guy she would hang out with when she just wants to hang out and talk.
The second kind of friend is the one she will do whatever she can to spend time with, she just does not want to refer to him as anything more than a friend in a way to protect herself.
Setting Yourself Up for a Heartache...
I've heard horror stories about guys trying to be friends with an ex girlfriend where they revert to the first kind of friend and it frustrates them to the core.
She starts to talk about guys she likes, she starts to act the way that she would with a brother, and the whole time...
the guy is sitting there wishing that he could be her boyfriend again.
A lot of the time, it just has to do with the fact that a woman does not want to leave things on bad terms with an ex boyfriend, and saying that she wants to be friends seems like a solution where there will be no hard feelings.
What if you want to get your ex girlfriend back and she wants to be friends, what should you do? Does The Friends Thing Lead to Something More? Well, my first suggestion is that you should say something along the lines of sure, why not? Something like that.
The thing is, you need to have the mindset where you know that you are not going to be her 'friend,' you want to be something more.
What I mean is, you want to be cordial about it, but at the same time, not actually do any friends kinds of things.
No hanging out, no talking about guys she likes, none of that stuff.
The problem with being her friend and acting like one is-- she will think of you as being a 'non sexual' being.
Meaning your face and the words sex will never cross paths again.
See, most women refer to guys that they hang out with and would never date as being friends.
And they will also refer to guys that they like and WOULD date as friends until something happens between the two of them.
The second one is the one that you want to be.
The first kind of friend, that is the guy she would hang out with when she just wants to hang out and talk.
The second kind of friend is the one she will do whatever she can to spend time with, she just does not want to refer to him as anything more than a friend in a way to protect herself.
Setting Yourself Up for a Heartache...
I've heard horror stories about guys trying to be friends with an ex girlfriend where they revert to the first kind of friend and it frustrates them to the core.
She starts to talk about guys she likes, she starts to act the way that she would with a brother, and the whole time...
the guy is sitting there wishing that he could be her boyfriend again.
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