- 1). Conduct a self-evaluation to see what part you played in the breakup. The key is to be as honest as possible with yourself and admit what you did wrong. Think about the things your ex told you had done wrong and what you did that hurt her.
- 2). Work on whatever it is you need to change or get rid of in your life. There is something broken in your relationship, and you need to fix it to get it to work again. Focus on changing bad habits or getting rid of them altogether.
- 3). Ignore your ex or stay away. This may sound cruel, but what you are doing is putting space between the two of you. That space will provide time for growth and change to occur on both sides; once this has happened, you can start to put the pieces of your relationship back together.
- 4). Make yourself more attractive. Do whatever is within your power to be more physically appealing to the opposite sex--and to your ex. If this means working out more, getting a haircut or just dressing differently, go ahead and do so. You do not have to go overboard; just take little steps to look better. It will help you in the long run.
- 5). Resume contact slowly and easily. Once you have completed the above steps, approach your ex in a non-confrontational manner. You can do this via a simple email or by sending a message through a friend. Don't make it anything big; just something to say "Hello" and convey good wishes. You will be surprised at how much more willing your ex will be to work things out when you take this approach.
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