Jeanne is sick of hearing her husband dismiss her questions about where he's been as "nothing.
" Sometimes he even tells her that she's a great "storyteller.
" Yet, her questions about where he's been when he is out until the early morning and doesn't answer his phone remain unanswered.
She wants to believe that her husband is not lying to her or cheating, but it's really difficult to do.
At the same time, Jeanne sometimes feels guilty (and a little crazy) after her inquiries are brushed aside by her husband.
She questions her own sanity in dark moments.
Could she just be making all of this up? Could he really be telling her the truth that his late nights and fail to communicate are really "nothing?" Or, is there something very real and very serious that she needs to know about going on instead? When you suspect that your partner is lying to you and maybe cheating too you might find yourself questioning yourself a lot.
If you've posed questions to your mate to try to find out where he or she has been, like Jeanne, you might have heard a lot of dismissals of your concerns.
You may even have been told that you are "paranoid" or "crazy.
" What you're left with is more questions and suspicions that before and more conflict and distance between you and your partner.
Before you chock up your suspicions to "nothing" or just your jealousy, insecurity or paranoia, we encourage you to get clear.
There is a HUGE difference between being jealous and filling in the blanks with fears about what your partner could be doing AND the tangible, verifiable clues that may be coming up about what your mate is really doing.
Isn't it time to stop feeling so torn up and doubtful and to determine what's really going on? Here is advice to help you do that...
Keep coming back to what you know in this present moment.
An important first step is to start to regain trust in your own perceptions and capacity.
If you're being dismissed and maybe even called "crazy," over time this is going to have an effect.
Start listening more to what you DO know to be true.
Affirm to yourself what is happening in this present moment.
If you are used to spending a lot of time thinking about the past and what could go on in the future, this might take some practice.
Practice coming back to your body and surroundings and to just focusing on your breath from time to time throughout the day.
Notice what you see, hear, smell and feel.
This can bring you more clarity and confidence in yourself too.
Keep looking for tangible, verifiable proof either way.
When it comes to the questions you have about your partner and his or her behavior, hone in on the tangible, verifiable proof that you find.
Try to keep an open mind about what is really going on with your partner until you have solid evidence.
You don't necessarily have to spy on your mate to get evidence upon which you can rely.
Some people do find that the only way to answer their questions is to spy.
Be aware of the risks to both relationship trust and possibly even your well-being (as well as legal considerations) before you decide to spy.
You can begin to compare what you observe and know to be true about your partner's usual behaviors, appearance, ways of being intimate and communicating with his or her current ways of being with you.
If you do have a tendency to get jealous, be aware of that.
Keep coming back to the present moment and looking for reliable proof.
When you recognize jealousy, notice how it might feel different in your body from a truth you can prove.
Chances are, if it actually is "nothing," there will be no reliable evidence to support your concerns.
However, if there is proof, it's probably time to gather more information and possibly make some decisions based on what you find out.
" Sometimes he even tells her that she's a great "storyteller.
" Yet, her questions about where he's been when he is out until the early morning and doesn't answer his phone remain unanswered.
She wants to believe that her husband is not lying to her or cheating, but it's really difficult to do.
At the same time, Jeanne sometimes feels guilty (and a little crazy) after her inquiries are brushed aside by her husband.
She questions her own sanity in dark moments.
Could she just be making all of this up? Could he really be telling her the truth that his late nights and fail to communicate are really "nothing?" Or, is there something very real and very serious that she needs to know about going on instead? When you suspect that your partner is lying to you and maybe cheating too you might find yourself questioning yourself a lot.
If you've posed questions to your mate to try to find out where he or she has been, like Jeanne, you might have heard a lot of dismissals of your concerns.
You may even have been told that you are "paranoid" or "crazy.
" What you're left with is more questions and suspicions that before and more conflict and distance between you and your partner.
Before you chock up your suspicions to "nothing" or just your jealousy, insecurity or paranoia, we encourage you to get clear.
There is a HUGE difference between being jealous and filling in the blanks with fears about what your partner could be doing AND the tangible, verifiable clues that may be coming up about what your mate is really doing.
Isn't it time to stop feeling so torn up and doubtful and to determine what's really going on? Here is advice to help you do that...
Keep coming back to what you know in this present moment.
An important first step is to start to regain trust in your own perceptions and capacity.
If you're being dismissed and maybe even called "crazy," over time this is going to have an effect.
Start listening more to what you DO know to be true.
Affirm to yourself what is happening in this present moment.
If you are used to spending a lot of time thinking about the past and what could go on in the future, this might take some practice.
Practice coming back to your body and surroundings and to just focusing on your breath from time to time throughout the day.
Notice what you see, hear, smell and feel.
This can bring you more clarity and confidence in yourself too.
Keep looking for tangible, verifiable proof either way.
When it comes to the questions you have about your partner and his or her behavior, hone in on the tangible, verifiable proof that you find.
Try to keep an open mind about what is really going on with your partner until you have solid evidence.
You don't necessarily have to spy on your mate to get evidence upon which you can rely.
Some people do find that the only way to answer their questions is to spy.
Be aware of the risks to both relationship trust and possibly even your well-being (as well as legal considerations) before you decide to spy.
You can begin to compare what you observe and know to be true about your partner's usual behaviors, appearance, ways of being intimate and communicating with his or her current ways of being with you.
If you do have a tendency to get jealous, be aware of that.
Keep coming back to the present moment and looking for reliable proof.
When you recognize jealousy, notice how it might feel different in your body from a truth you can prove.
Chances are, if it actually is "nothing," there will be no reliable evidence to support your concerns.
However, if there is proof, it's probably time to gather more information and possibly make some decisions based on what you find out.
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