Did you just go through a break-up and your ex quickly jumped into a new relationship? Our tendency is to assume that this is a sign that what you shared with him or her was meaningless.
It, believe it or not, is a sign that your relationship was quite significant.
It means that your ex was overcome with such loss and pain that he or she couldn't deal with it and felt it was easier to transfer these feelings to someone else.
Rebounds are rarely about thinking.
They are about numbing our feelings or acting out or to put it another way, they're subconscious not conscious.
This is good news for you because your ex doesn't have a permanent fixation on this person.
But this is a huge opportunity for you to as my mom used to say, "Turn a scar into a star".
Reacting to his or her newfound love may be what he or she is looking for you to do, but the wrong thing for you to do.
Wish him or her well and if you are really interested in getting your ex back, I suggest you follow these steps that worked for me.
Though we want to prove that we are better than Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound, you can't compete with these feelings.
For one thing, there is little anyone can do to separate people when they're in the middle of euphoria.
Though your ex has transferred deeply held love for you to rebound person, he or she is feeling something for this person.
But because the two of them don't know one another as well as you two did, it's not real.
Let it runs its course.
If your ex talks with you, all right, feels the need to share every detail of the relationship with you, as much as it hurts, take it.
Wish him or her well and move on.
Don't give your ex any reason to bond to Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound.
Chances are Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound, feeling insecure because he or she knows the relationship isn't permanent, is doing everything he or she can to make you look bad.
Don't do the same.
In the meantime, take up a hobby, find the friends you ignored when you were part of "couple hood" and take your mind off him or her.
If you are really interested in getting your ex back, concentrating on yourself and not focusing on him will help you.
Because the rebound is based on nothing but euphoria and love for you, it will run its course.
And given that you were supportive during the relationship, your ex will have no choice but to compare the meaningless "thing" he or she was in to the real love you and your ex shared.
It, believe it or not, is a sign that your relationship was quite significant.
It means that your ex was overcome with such loss and pain that he or she couldn't deal with it and felt it was easier to transfer these feelings to someone else.
Rebounds are rarely about thinking.
They are about numbing our feelings or acting out or to put it another way, they're subconscious not conscious.
This is good news for you because your ex doesn't have a permanent fixation on this person.
But this is a huge opportunity for you to as my mom used to say, "Turn a scar into a star".
Reacting to his or her newfound love may be what he or she is looking for you to do, but the wrong thing for you to do.
Wish him or her well and if you are really interested in getting your ex back, I suggest you follow these steps that worked for me.
Though we want to prove that we are better than Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound, you can't compete with these feelings.
For one thing, there is little anyone can do to separate people when they're in the middle of euphoria.
Though your ex has transferred deeply held love for you to rebound person, he or she is feeling something for this person.
But because the two of them don't know one another as well as you two did, it's not real.
Let it runs its course.
If your ex talks with you, all right, feels the need to share every detail of the relationship with you, as much as it hurts, take it.
Wish him or her well and move on.
Don't give your ex any reason to bond to Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound.
Chances are Mr.
or Ms.
Rebound, feeling insecure because he or she knows the relationship isn't permanent, is doing everything he or she can to make you look bad.
Don't do the same.
In the meantime, take up a hobby, find the friends you ignored when you were part of "couple hood" and take your mind off him or her.
If you are really interested in getting your ex back, concentrating on yourself and not focusing on him will help you.
Because the rebound is based on nothing but euphoria and love for you, it will run its course.
And given that you were supportive during the relationship, your ex will have no choice but to compare the meaningless "thing" he or she was in to the real love you and your ex shared.
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