You may be like the countless couples who have tried couple counseling only to find you are still have problems in your relationship.
You are not alone.
Marriage statistics have shown nearly 50% of couples who have tried marriage therapy end up divorced.
That statistic is not much better than for couples who did not try any form or marriage therapy or counseling.
Studies have shown that only 10 to 20% of couples in couple counseling experience a significant improvement in their relationship.
These marriage statistics may surprise you, but if you have experienced the frustration of failed couple counseling you may not be surprised at all.
But rest assured, there is hope.
See, the problem is usually not the couple, but the therapy.
It is not your fault, but rather the faulty assumption of traditional couple counseling.
What is this faulty assumption? That everything will be fine in the marriage with improved communication skills.
That learning to express yourself better to remove misunderstanding or to let your spouse know your true feelings is the key to connubial bliss.
In fact, more communication in an unhappy marriage can actually make things worse, not better.
If the communication is destructive, you will only end up as a marriage statistic instead of a happily married couple.
Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship.
Many couples understand this, but a common problem is that each person feels they are giving far more than the other.
Eventually, each feels they are making a heroic effort just to put up with the other and develop the 'martyr syndrome'.
Perhaps you have felt this pattern emerge in your marriage, but this is just one example of the many harmful patterns that commonly develop in marriage.
Happily married couples have more than a relationship, more than love and more than good communication skills.
What they have, whether on purpose or by accident, is a system.
The problem is most couples get married and are never taught how to have a good marriage, they are just expected to figure it our on their own.
Marriage statistics show this is a poor strategy.
Having a system in your marriage is the foundation for good communication, which provides a way for your relationship, and the love you felt on your marriage day, to flourish.
You are not alone.
Marriage statistics have shown nearly 50% of couples who have tried marriage therapy end up divorced.
That statistic is not much better than for couples who did not try any form or marriage therapy or counseling.
Studies have shown that only 10 to 20% of couples in couple counseling experience a significant improvement in their relationship.
These marriage statistics may surprise you, but if you have experienced the frustration of failed couple counseling you may not be surprised at all.
But rest assured, there is hope.
See, the problem is usually not the couple, but the therapy.
It is not your fault, but rather the faulty assumption of traditional couple counseling.
What is this faulty assumption? That everything will be fine in the marriage with improved communication skills.
That learning to express yourself better to remove misunderstanding or to let your spouse know your true feelings is the key to connubial bliss.
In fact, more communication in an unhappy marriage can actually make things worse, not better.
If the communication is destructive, you will only end up as a marriage statistic instead of a happily married couple.
Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship.
Many couples understand this, but a common problem is that each person feels they are giving far more than the other.
Eventually, each feels they are making a heroic effort just to put up with the other and develop the 'martyr syndrome'.
Perhaps you have felt this pattern emerge in your marriage, but this is just one example of the many harmful patterns that commonly develop in marriage.
Happily married couples have more than a relationship, more than love and more than good communication skills.
What they have, whether on purpose or by accident, is a system.
The problem is most couples get married and are never taught how to have a good marriage, they are just expected to figure it our on their own.
Marriage statistics show this is a poor strategy.
Having a system in your marriage is the foundation for good communication, which provides a way for your relationship, and the love you felt on your marriage day, to flourish.
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