Children use psychology on their parents all the time.
For instance, a child learns to cry so that the parent will give them attention more often.
A child may even pretend to be hurt so that the parent will pick them up...
It's true..
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children are extremely clever in this aspect, and it's because they are too young to complicate things.
They look at the results and take action from there, and that's exactly what you need to do too.
In fact, all you need to do is use a simple psychological trick to make your ex take you back.
And trust me, if a child can do this, you can too..
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Seeking approval All human beings seek approval from others.
Mostly we use it as a mechanism to tell if we are doing good or not, such as in when we ask a friend for advice about whether or not something looks good on you, or whether or not they think you should do something.
This is known as seeking approval, and psychologically speaking children do it too.
They always seek the approval of their parents to say "yes, you are doing a good job...
" "yes, I love you" etc...
This is a need we all have which we never grow out of, and the same applies to your ex.
You can make them seek your approval, simply by suggesting to them that you have a set of standards which they no longer fit into.
Most people would make the mistake of seeking their ex's approval, but putting them on a pedestal and trying to impress them, but you really should be doing the opposite, since it is YOU who has to convince your ex to take you back.
So to do this, all you have to do is say this to your ex: "I'm surprised that you didn't break up with me sooner, because I really wanted to break up with you.
But you saved me a lot of work, so thankyou.
I'm glad you feel that way, because I've never really looked at you as someone who I could spend my life with" It may sound rude at first, but trust me, this works, and it psychologically challenges your ex so powerfully, that they will have no choice but to respond to this in one way or another.
It challenges your ex, because you are agreeing with them for the breakup, and thanking them, but at the same time are telling them that they would not fulfill your needs.
Your ex will want to respond to this, because it will emotionally drive them either to disagree or agree...
BUT once they do, you can be CERTAIN that they are now seeking your approval and can play it from there to make your ex take you back, because the ball is now in your court.
For instance, a child learns to cry so that the parent will give them attention more often.
A child may even pretend to be hurt so that the parent will pick them up...
It's true..
..
children are extremely clever in this aspect, and it's because they are too young to complicate things.
They look at the results and take action from there, and that's exactly what you need to do too.
In fact, all you need to do is use a simple psychological trick to make your ex take you back.
And trust me, if a child can do this, you can too..
..
Seeking approval All human beings seek approval from others.
Mostly we use it as a mechanism to tell if we are doing good or not, such as in when we ask a friend for advice about whether or not something looks good on you, or whether or not they think you should do something.
This is known as seeking approval, and psychologically speaking children do it too.
They always seek the approval of their parents to say "yes, you are doing a good job...
" "yes, I love you" etc...
This is a need we all have which we never grow out of, and the same applies to your ex.
You can make them seek your approval, simply by suggesting to them that you have a set of standards which they no longer fit into.
Most people would make the mistake of seeking their ex's approval, but putting them on a pedestal and trying to impress them, but you really should be doing the opposite, since it is YOU who has to convince your ex to take you back.
So to do this, all you have to do is say this to your ex: "I'm surprised that you didn't break up with me sooner, because I really wanted to break up with you.
But you saved me a lot of work, so thankyou.
I'm glad you feel that way, because I've never really looked at you as someone who I could spend my life with" It may sound rude at first, but trust me, this works, and it psychologically challenges your ex so powerfully, that they will have no choice but to respond to this in one way or another.
It challenges your ex, because you are agreeing with them for the breakup, and thanking them, but at the same time are telling them that they would not fulfill your needs.
Your ex will want to respond to this, because it will emotionally drive them either to disagree or agree...
BUT once they do, you can be CERTAIN that they are now seeking your approval and can play it from there to make your ex take you back, because the ball is now in your court.
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