A relationship is a delicate thing that depends on constant care and maintenance so it can thrive.
Sometimes your relationship can get injured, and a breakup can follow.
It's upsetting, and puts the two of you under a lot of stress.
Afterwards, one of the first ideas that occurs to you is to get back at your ex.
But think about it first.
How do you really want things to end up? If you want them to turn out well, you can in fact get back at your ex in a constructive way.
How? By doing the right things as you try to get him or her back, you can turn it around in your favor so your ex realizes that you still mean a lot to him or her.
Make the most of the following 5 ways to get back at your ex - but at the same time get your ex back, too.
1.
Show off your strength.
Desperation drives love away.
This is especially so after a breakup.
Whatever you do, don't try to hang on or beg.
Give your ex the impression that you have decided to get on with your life, even if it means being without him or her.
The sight of you being strong enough to move on will force your ex to face the fact that they haven't, and that they still have the old feelings for you.
2.
Stay out of contact.
You may find this very difficult right when the thing you want most is to make the relationship come back to life.
Take some comfort from knowing that this wil have a major impact on both getting back at your ex and getting your ex back.
It's time for some time away from him or her.
Don't try to stay in touch.
It will do the relationship some good for your ex to have the time to find his or her balance again and remember how much you mean to .
each other.
3.
Be nice and easy to get along with.
It's common to take a fighting attitude when it comes to who lives where, or whose things have to be moved by when.
But don't.
Be the reasonable one, and be understanding and patient.
After the unpleasant memories of the breakup, seeing you be so mature and decent can be a gentle shock that helps both of you open up with each other once again.
4.
Have a life.
Don't haunt your home and hide from everyone.
Get together with your friends and do things with them.
Have fun.
If you want to you can even consider dating - but you don't have to.
You do have to get out there with friends and have a good time.
It's good medicine for you - and shows your ex what a treasure he or she lost.
5.
Accept and show who you are.
Why do you think your ex liked you to begin with? Do what has already worked.
Your relationship and your ex have the best chance to come back if your ex experiences your real self.
You'll even help your ex be real as well.