A breakup is a difficult decision to make, and usually comes about over a period of time.
After the initial separation, there is usually a time of very strong emotions, with both parties feeling the effects of being on their own for the first time in a while.
If you want to get your back as soon as possible here is a way to instantly make them feel curious about you again.
For the setting, try to go to a place where you know they will be, with a group of your friends.
Also be sure to have some "other options" present.
You'll see why in a bit.
First, be casual.
Just hang out with your group, and don't pay any attention to your ex.
The point is to focus on yourself and have fun.
It is important to look like you're really having a good time, even if your feelings are a little different.
Then, flirt a bit with one of the options.
Don't be too over the top with this.
Just carry on in a friendly, flirty manner.
Don't worry if your ex can see you or not when this is happening.
It's not a good idea to try and rub anything in someone's face.
What you are trying to do is show that your life doesn't revolve around them.
That maybe you think the break up was a nice change of pace.
If it's obvious to them that you are having a good time on your own they won't be able to stop feeling that they want you again.
Remember that this has to be authentic.
If they can tell you're trying too hard or faking it there won't be the same effect.
So just go out with your friends for a good time, and that's it.
Last, if you happen to talk to your ex don't commit to anything.
Tell them about the new exciting things going on and ask them about what they are doing...
but leave it at that.
Don't make plans at all, and just leave with a casual "I'll see you later.
" It'll drive them nuts, as they will be filled with curiosity at this point.
And hey, if there's a bit of collateral jealousy in there...
so much the better.
You've got to remember that at this point in time the relationship is like a cat - if you focus on it, it will be coy, but if you just pay attention to your situation it'll rub up on your leg when you're not looking.
The takeaway piece is this: After a breakup, the best thing to do is focus on yourself.
It seems paradoxical, but that is how to get your ex back.
After the initial separation, there is usually a time of very strong emotions, with both parties feeling the effects of being on their own for the first time in a while.
If you want to get your back as soon as possible here is a way to instantly make them feel curious about you again.
For the setting, try to go to a place where you know they will be, with a group of your friends.
Also be sure to have some "other options" present.
You'll see why in a bit.
First, be casual.
Just hang out with your group, and don't pay any attention to your ex.
The point is to focus on yourself and have fun.
It is important to look like you're really having a good time, even if your feelings are a little different.
Then, flirt a bit with one of the options.
Don't be too over the top with this.
Just carry on in a friendly, flirty manner.
Don't worry if your ex can see you or not when this is happening.
It's not a good idea to try and rub anything in someone's face.
What you are trying to do is show that your life doesn't revolve around them.
That maybe you think the break up was a nice change of pace.
If it's obvious to them that you are having a good time on your own they won't be able to stop feeling that they want you again.
Remember that this has to be authentic.
If they can tell you're trying too hard or faking it there won't be the same effect.
So just go out with your friends for a good time, and that's it.
Last, if you happen to talk to your ex don't commit to anything.
Tell them about the new exciting things going on and ask them about what they are doing...
but leave it at that.
Don't make plans at all, and just leave with a casual "I'll see you later.
" It'll drive them nuts, as they will be filled with curiosity at this point.
And hey, if there's a bit of collateral jealousy in there...
so much the better.
You've got to remember that at this point in time the relationship is like a cat - if you focus on it, it will be coy, but if you just pay attention to your situation it'll rub up on your leg when you're not looking.
The takeaway piece is this: After a breakup, the best thing to do is focus on yourself.
It seems paradoxical, but that is how to get your ex back.
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