"Breaking up is hard to do...
" so goes the song.
A breakup is never easy.
Whether you're the one "wanting out" or you're the one being "dropped", a split-up is never simple.
Tears and fears are all part of the split-up.
So your partner left you but you want him back.
What do you do now? The initial reaction would be (if you still love your ex) is to cry and plead for him not to leave you.
Wrong! He'd run faster away from you if you act that way.
Here are a few pointers on how to get your ex back.
Don't Be Pathetic - Please! Don't wail like a siren after your partner breaks up with you.
A silent cry or a single tear drop is permissible - dramatic even.
Your ex will not like it if you make a scene.
It would make him more confident that his decision to break up with you was right.
Keep your dignity and let him go, for the meantime.
Let Him Miss You - Stop sending him messages that you want him back.
Stop calling his mobile phone or sending emails and text messages.
Let him miss you! If you keep calling him and leaving messages every so often, he will not have the chance to miss you.
Stay cool and wait.
Give Him Space - Sometimes, a person just needs some space to re-discover himself.
Give your ex this opportunity.
Once he has had enough of "rediscovering" himself with his night-outs with the guys, he'd be back to you.
Do a Makeover -...
Of yourself.
I do not mean that you go and spend a fortune on a new look and wardrobe - though that would help - but build up your self esteem and personality.
Take a good hard look on yourself and say "I am definitely worth it!" Once you've reinvented yourself and you think that your ex has had his fill of space and self re-discovery, call and invite him for a cup of coffee.
Two things: You'd find that you don't want him after all or he'd come crawling back to you.