Whether or not the breakup was mutual, who was right and who was wrong doesn't matter anymore.
Your heart is broken.
The pain isn't just emotional, a physical aching exists.
You want to crawl into a ball and just be nothing.
Maybe then it wouldn't hurt as much.
So what can you do to get over a broken heart? Don't Deny That It Hurts You aren't a robot incapable of emotional suffering and pretending to be one comes at great consequence.
You can hide from it if you want.
Pretend it doesn't hurt until the unthinkable happens.
You're reminded that you're human.
You'll hear a song or see a commercial that floods your system with thoughts and memories of your ex and you'll go into an emotional overload and break down.
The worst part of this scenario is the pain resurfaces weeks or months later, when you should be moving on already.
You're in pain, and it's okay to express that.
It's quite normal.
Put The Ice Cream Away It's comforting to indulge, right now.
It'll make you feel better, right now.
But self defeating activities have a habit of collecting payment down the line.
Punishing yourself with thoughts of "I feel fat" or "I'm so weak" because you polished off a barrel of double fudge is not going to help get over a broken heart.
It'll only compound your depression and anxiety.
Everyone at some point gets their heart broken.
The sooner you confront and acknowledge the pain, the sooner it will end.
You have an incredible ability to cope with the most heart wrenching and devastating events.
Immerse yourself in reality and let the grieving happen.
Then let it go away.