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Stalking Help - How Counselling Helped Me While Being Stalked

I remember the day I went to see a counsellor the first time. I was very nervous and not too keen about spilling my life story to a complete stranger. I had been stalked for a while so had been advised to seek some support. The counsellor was a gentle woman who made me feel totally at ease. It took some months before I even disclosed I was being stalked and it hit me how much victims keep it a secret. Why do we do that?

It is not nice to admit to anyone you have someone stalking you and not everybody wants to know anyway. I learned very early on that a lot of people find the whole thing very frightening and often seem to avoid you from that point on. As isolating you from any help is what a stalker aims for this does not prove to be very helpful when it comes to trying to get rid of them. It would often seem the only person who has to handle the whole thing is pretty much yourself.

In the country I reside in you do not hear to much of this kind of stuff so the advent of a stalker became something very new A stalker was something you read about or watched on the news not something happening in your own back yard. A shroud of secrecy seemed to revolve around it. In fact writing about it I was informed I may look like some crazy person with wild imaginings. That is definitely not the case. By outing my own stalking I hope only to help others who fear the backlash of doing the same.

You see these stalkers are crafty devils and they play on any little weakness or insecurity they can find in you. I find that such a double standard as they would have to be some of the most insecure people living on this planet. I often wonder if reading psychology books is a pass time of theirs as they seem to know all the tricks. In a negative way that is.

Working with a counsellor I was able to get things in perspective and realise that I could keep myself safe and sane even while being stalked. I highly recommend you talk to a counsellor if you can because stalkers are very good at messing with your mind. You need to be aware of this and learn strategies that will enable you to keep living your life. These strategies would probably apply to most victims of abuse. They help you with the wide range of emotions you encounter while being victimised. Thanks to a kind lady who knew her job well I am not only writing this article but living a good life.

A stalker wants their stalking of you to remain your dirty little secret. That is how they isolate you from others who could help. Their threats that prevent you from going to law enforcement agencies or police are all part of their regime to keep you alone. You cannot afford to keep a stalking to yourself. It is far too dangerous. The more you can out them the better it will be for you. They hate being seen for what they are. It is not your fault you were singled out by them. The sickness or delusion lies with them Do not try to second guess them or work them out. Just get support and look after yourself.

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