It is a guy thing, 75% of break ups are instigated by the girl.
That's right, it's the girls who usually call the relationship off, and guys generally want to stick together.
So for all those guys who want their ex back, this article is for you.
Hard though it might be, the first thing to consider is do you actually want to get back together? Some guys are notorious for wanting to keep things simple.
Sometimes the effort required to move out of a relationship and find a new one is such that they are happy just to keep things as they are even though they may not be that good.
If a relationship is Ok, guys are often more likely to "settle" rather than find a really good relationship.
Cynicism also plays a part here.
Sometimes people are just plain "world weary" and don't believe anything can be perfect, so just settle for what they have.
Despite this, it's important, before you do anything, to consider if the split is a blessing in disguise.
Maybe it's an opportunity to move on.
If you decide that, after all, it's time for a change, then read no further.
However, if you seriously want your girl back, read on.
The next thing to do is to decide whether or not she still loves you.
It's not unusual for girls to act on impulse, so the fact that she's left you does not necessarily mean she doesn't still love you.
However, if you think that she does indeed still love you, resist the temptation to bombard her with text messages and phone calls.
If you act like a stalker you will lose her for good.
What you have to do is very hard, but necessary.
That is you must resist contacting her at all.
Get out there, and have some fun.
Make it look as though you are accepting of the situation (even if you're not!).
Even date some girls that are shared friends, but treat them as friends.
That will signal to your ex that you still want them, even though you are dating others.
During this time, you have the opportunity to get your head back together again.
Getting out there and seeing people will also help with the pain.
As you find others who want to be with you, your self confidence will return.
You will even find that you can think more clearly about your ex and decide whether you want to pursue her or not.
The thing is, if you were just coasting when your girlfriend left, you may now be discovering what you were missing.
However, if you still feel your ex is your soul mate you should pursue her, and the best way to do this is to be a friend.
By being there for them, and then progressing to some light hearted meetings or outings you will soon find out if she's the one, or if you need to move on and her initial moving away was, in fact, a blessing in disguise.
That's right, it's the girls who usually call the relationship off, and guys generally want to stick together.
So for all those guys who want their ex back, this article is for you.
Hard though it might be, the first thing to consider is do you actually want to get back together? Some guys are notorious for wanting to keep things simple.
Sometimes the effort required to move out of a relationship and find a new one is such that they are happy just to keep things as they are even though they may not be that good.
If a relationship is Ok, guys are often more likely to "settle" rather than find a really good relationship.
Cynicism also plays a part here.
Sometimes people are just plain "world weary" and don't believe anything can be perfect, so just settle for what they have.
Despite this, it's important, before you do anything, to consider if the split is a blessing in disguise.
Maybe it's an opportunity to move on.
If you decide that, after all, it's time for a change, then read no further.
However, if you seriously want your girl back, read on.
The next thing to do is to decide whether or not she still loves you.
It's not unusual for girls to act on impulse, so the fact that she's left you does not necessarily mean she doesn't still love you.
However, if you think that she does indeed still love you, resist the temptation to bombard her with text messages and phone calls.
If you act like a stalker you will lose her for good.
What you have to do is very hard, but necessary.
That is you must resist contacting her at all.
Get out there, and have some fun.
Make it look as though you are accepting of the situation (even if you're not!).
Even date some girls that are shared friends, but treat them as friends.
That will signal to your ex that you still want them, even though you are dating others.
During this time, you have the opportunity to get your head back together again.
Getting out there and seeing people will also help with the pain.
As you find others who want to be with you, your self confidence will return.
You will even find that you can think more clearly about your ex and decide whether you want to pursue her or not.
The thing is, if you were just coasting when your girlfriend left, you may now be discovering what you were missing.
However, if you still feel your ex is your soul mate you should pursue her, and the best way to do this is to be a friend.
By being there for them, and then progressing to some light hearted meetings or outings you will soon find out if she's the one, or if you need to move on and her initial moving away was, in fact, a blessing in disguise.
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