The crumbling of a marriage can happen slowly and quietly, often times sneaking up on you, or so you think.
But the reality is that the signs were there but ignored, and suddenly you find yourself in the position of trying to reunite with your ex because your marriage ended in divorce.
There are highly effective tools a couple can use to find their way back to each other before everything crumbles around them.
Using these tools effectively and regularly is one of the ways to protect your marriage, your relationship and your life together.
1.
The Blame is on Both of You Both of you have to take responsibility for the issues in your marriage.
It isn't all him and it isn't all her.
Yes, you can pinpoint each other's faults and they may be very valid but believe me, each of you has areas the other can pinpoint.
It takes two to tango.
It takes two to make it work and it takes two to make it fall apart.
One person is not to blame for everything.
Start pulling your weight toward the relationship.
When your partner experiences this from you it will encourage him to do the same.
2.
A Common Drive Each of you has a force that drives you.
Look at what makes you happy and drives you.
Look for the same in your partner and see if there is a common ground.
If you have ignored the things that drive and fulfill you then start them up again and advise your partner to do the same.
3.
Fuel Your Passions Together Now that you have both found your passions that drive you in life, join together to fuel them and keep them alive.
Even if your passions are different, there may be something that is similar between them, and it is here that each of your passions joins you together.
Share them with each other.
Build on them together.
Support each other by helping one another, and sharing your information, hopes for the future, ups and downs, etc 4.
Re open Communication Lines Having an open line of communication in a marriage makes for a strong friendship and enables more trust between two people.
If you have not been communicating with your partner, no matter how difficult, face that difficulty now so that you are not in a position later where you are trying to reunite with your ex because your marriage failed.
Start with smaller things to communicate about first and work up to the bigger more difficult ones.
5.
Touch Touching and intimacy are the essential forms of communication.
One of the best things a married couple can do for their marriage on a daily basis is touch one another.
If this feels awkward, then you are right in seeking out information to help your marriage.
Find your way back to touching one another, no matter how awkward, once you do it a couple of times you will be very surprised at its outcome.
Don't try and get your marriage back to when you first joined but rather work together to create a solid foundation that will support your marriage through all of life's ups and downs.
Working together using these five tools will give you both what you need to start saving your marriage before one or both you is in a position of trying to reunite with your ex because you ignored your marriage and each other.
But the reality is that the signs were there but ignored, and suddenly you find yourself in the position of trying to reunite with your ex because your marriage ended in divorce.
There are highly effective tools a couple can use to find their way back to each other before everything crumbles around them.
Using these tools effectively and regularly is one of the ways to protect your marriage, your relationship and your life together.
1.
The Blame is on Both of You Both of you have to take responsibility for the issues in your marriage.
It isn't all him and it isn't all her.
Yes, you can pinpoint each other's faults and they may be very valid but believe me, each of you has areas the other can pinpoint.
It takes two to tango.
It takes two to make it work and it takes two to make it fall apart.
One person is not to blame for everything.
Start pulling your weight toward the relationship.
When your partner experiences this from you it will encourage him to do the same.
2.
A Common Drive Each of you has a force that drives you.
Look at what makes you happy and drives you.
Look for the same in your partner and see if there is a common ground.
If you have ignored the things that drive and fulfill you then start them up again and advise your partner to do the same.
3.
Fuel Your Passions Together Now that you have both found your passions that drive you in life, join together to fuel them and keep them alive.
Even if your passions are different, there may be something that is similar between them, and it is here that each of your passions joins you together.
Share them with each other.
Build on them together.
Support each other by helping one another, and sharing your information, hopes for the future, ups and downs, etc 4.
Re open Communication Lines Having an open line of communication in a marriage makes for a strong friendship and enables more trust between two people.
If you have not been communicating with your partner, no matter how difficult, face that difficulty now so that you are not in a position later where you are trying to reunite with your ex because your marriage failed.
Start with smaller things to communicate about first and work up to the bigger more difficult ones.
5.
Touch Touching and intimacy are the essential forms of communication.
One of the best things a married couple can do for their marriage on a daily basis is touch one another.
If this feels awkward, then you are right in seeking out information to help your marriage.
Find your way back to touching one another, no matter how awkward, once you do it a couple of times you will be very surprised at its outcome.
Don't try and get your marriage back to when you first joined but rather work together to create a solid foundation that will support your marriage through all of life's ups and downs.
Working together using these five tools will give you both what you need to start saving your marriage before one or both you is in a position of trying to reunite with your ex because you ignored your marriage and each other.
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