Many people of all ages struggle to have satisfying sex lives.
Many settle for so-so sex because they aren't sure what to do differently.
Many feel shy, awkward, uncomfortable, or uninformed.
The good news is that sexual techniques or variety by themselves will not lead to great physical intimacy.
Nor do you have to be sexually functional.
Here is what you can do to have memorable sex: 1) Shift your framework from reaching the goal of orgasm to having a good time playing.
Remember how you played as a child, or play with your own children.
You weren't performing; you were running, shouting, laughing, getting messy, and not caring about anything else.
Sex has all of those features.
2) Learn to relax and be in the present moment.
Good sex is about experiencing the pleasure of sensation in the moment; again, not about focusing on the goal of orgasm.
Being absorbed in pleasure is similar to the state of absorption of a good book, good movie, or good music.
Everything else fades into the background.
3) Be comfortable in your own skin.
Be yourself.
Let perfectionist standards about your body and your performance go.
4) Have a warm connection to your partner.
Trust and sharing enhance sexual experiences.
Controlling behavior is a turn-off.
5) Let go controlling behavior.
It is a turn-off.
6) Be tuned in to your partner-listening and empathy especially are turn-ons.
7) Develop an easy ebb and flow of giving and receiving pleasure.
Stretch yourself in one of those areas that may be harder.
If you give well, but have trouble receiving; gradually develop more ability to receive.
If it is harder to give, stretch yourself in that area too.
8) Work on being a healthy person free of addiction, having good boundaries and good self-knowledge.
9) If you have suffered a trauma, stay on the path of healing and learn strategies to have safe and pleasurable intimacy.
10) Kissing is the most important part of great sex.
Kissing conveys tenderness and passion.
Without it you stop having great sex.
Consider bringing more meaning to your sex life.
Many believe great sex involves love, romance, and spiritual connection.
Many find these ideas a relief and more easily attained than focusing on more pressured ways to perform sexually.
These ideas encourage personal growth, which leads to more confidence in all areas of life, including success in ones sex life.
Many settle for so-so sex because they aren't sure what to do differently.
Many feel shy, awkward, uncomfortable, or uninformed.
The good news is that sexual techniques or variety by themselves will not lead to great physical intimacy.
Nor do you have to be sexually functional.
Here is what you can do to have memorable sex: 1) Shift your framework from reaching the goal of orgasm to having a good time playing.
Remember how you played as a child, or play with your own children.
You weren't performing; you were running, shouting, laughing, getting messy, and not caring about anything else.
Sex has all of those features.
2) Learn to relax and be in the present moment.
Good sex is about experiencing the pleasure of sensation in the moment; again, not about focusing on the goal of orgasm.
Being absorbed in pleasure is similar to the state of absorption of a good book, good movie, or good music.
Everything else fades into the background.
3) Be comfortable in your own skin.
Be yourself.
Let perfectionist standards about your body and your performance go.
4) Have a warm connection to your partner.
Trust and sharing enhance sexual experiences.
Controlling behavior is a turn-off.
5) Let go controlling behavior.
It is a turn-off.
6) Be tuned in to your partner-listening and empathy especially are turn-ons.
7) Develop an easy ebb and flow of giving and receiving pleasure.
Stretch yourself in one of those areas that may be harder.
If you give well, but have trouble receiving; gradually develop more ability to receive.
If it is harder to give, stretch yourself in that area too.
8) Work on being a healthy person free of addiction, having good boundaries and good self-knowledge.
9) If you have suffered a trauma, stay on the path of healing and learn strategies to have safe and pleasurable intimacy.
10) Kissing is the most important part of great sex.
Kissing conveys tenderness and passion.
Without it you stop having great sex.
Consider bringing more meaning to your sex life.
Many believe great sex involves love, romance, and spiritual connection.
Many find these ideas a relief and more easily attained than focusing on more pressured ways to perform sexually.
These ideas encourage personal growth, which leads to more confidence in all areas of life, including success in ones sex life.
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