Both men and women have affairs, but studies indicate that more men than women tend to engage in married dating and extramarital activities. The figures indicate that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will go online searching through married personals to have an extramarital affair. People looking outside of their married life for fun is not by any means new, but it has become much easier to cheat. Some people question if monogamy is natural, or is it natural to want to have an extramarital affair. The debate has been ongoing, and the bottom line is every person is different and every marriage is unique.

Online surveys conducted regarding people who cheat indicted that most loved their spouses but went searching through "married but looking" personals ads because they were bored at home. Other reasons for seeking extramarital connections include, their partner's lack of sexual interest, and another reason was their personal need for variety and sexual fun.

Never has it been easier and more convenient than the age of the internet to search for "married personals" and meet like minded people for discreet fun. Gone are the days of sneaking to cheap motels, now you can meet people right from your living room, while your wife is in the kitchen. The Internet is the most common form of meeting married people for discreet affairs. A simple click of a mouse button and you can find thousands of people looking for love outside of their home. There are numerous dating sites that cater to "married but looking" people, and they are very popular with married women and men. You can do everything from sending emails, online chat and even do video/web cam flirting with people right across the world.

So how many people actually end up meeting in real life after chatting online with someone? A recent study taken indicates it's to be about 20% of married people who go online looking for discreet affairs actually take it to the next level and meet in person. And of course more men than women ended up using married dating services to begin with, not surprising. A big part of the success and the reason for the popularity of married dating sites is because it guarantees anonymity. Many married people feel it is harmless fun as long as it doesn't involve physical touching. You can go online and chat to a married woman about all your fantasies and your most intimate details about your life, then when you're done flirting you can shut off your computer and go cut the grass. Welcome to the world of online dating for married people.