Getting back into the dating game might feel a little bit like diving into shark infested waters.
To some degree this is an apt analogy but you might find that it isn't as frightening to swim with the big fish as you've been led to believe.
Dating changes often but the basic rules remain the same.
Keep these rules in mind when you find yourself dating again and hopefully you'll enjoy better results this time around.
So, what do you need to do to make it through these treacherous waters and live to date another day? Think like one of the big fish.
This doesn't mean to go in like some head bobbing, gold chain wearing, throwback to the disco era.
You do need to have some degree of confidence and positive thinking to make it work well for you.
Otherwise you'll never get beyond asking her out.
Believe you're going to hit it off and have a great time and you're chances for first date success will improve significantly.
There really is a great deal of power in positive thinking.
There is an equal amount of power, on the flipside, in negative thinking.
Make sure you use that power wisely and in your favor.
Don't bring your ex along on the date with you.
While most people would never even dream of bringing the ex along "in the flesh" so many people bring the ex along with bitterness, attitudes, and fears.
A new date is a clean slate.
Let it be your fresh start as well as a fresh start for the person you're going out with.
Don't hold her responsible for the sins of your ex and expect her to not hold you responsible for the evils of her ex.
It's a wonderful two way street that works well for the two of you.
A third wheel on the date though isn't fun for anyone.
Be your charming best.
Even if it isn't in your nature to be charming all the time, make a special effort on the first date.
While it's good to be yourself you can play up your fabulousness while downplaying your flaws to some degree.
You might even accidentally overcome some of your more glaring flaws with a little practice at hiding them.
The bottom line is that you need to be prepared to put your best face forward, leave your ex at home, and be confident in yourself in order to enjoy a great first date when getting back into the dating game.
To some degree this is an apt analogy but you might find that it isn't as frightening to swim with the big fish as you've been led to believe.
Dating changes often but the basic rules remain the same.
Keep these rules in mind when you find yourself dating again and hopefully you'll enjoy better results this time around.
So, what do you need to do to make it through these treacherous waters and live to date another day? Think like one of the big fish.
This doesn't mean to go in like some head bobbing, gold chain wearing, throwback to the disco era.
You do need to have some degree of confidence and positive thinking to make it work well for you.
Otherwise you'll never get beyond asking her out.
Believe you're going to hit it off and have a great time and you're chances for first date success will improve significantly.
There really is a great deal of power in positive thinking.
There is an equal amount of power, on the flipside, in negative thinking.
Make sure you use that power wisely and in your favor.
Don't bring your ex along on the date with you.
While most people would never even dream of bringing the ex along "in the flesh" so many people bring the ex along with bitterness, attitudes, and fears.
A new date is a clean slate.
Let it be your fresh start as well as a fresh start for the person you're going out with.
Don't hold her responsible for the sins of your ex and expect her to not hold you responsible for the evils of her ex.
It's a wonderful two way street that works well for the two of you.
A third wheel on the date though isn't fun for anyone.
Be your charming best.
Even if it isn't in your nature to be charming all the time, make a special effort on the first date.
While it's good to be yourself you can play up your fabulousness while downplaying your flaws to some degree.
You might even accidentally overcome some of your more glaring flaws with a little practice at hiding them.
The bottom line is that you need to be prepared to put your best face forward, leave your ex at home, and be confident in yourself in order to enjoy a great first date when getting back into the dating game.
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