By Susie and Otto Collins
Cindy is fed up with her boyfriend Jason's jealous tirades. She feels wrongly accused and under a microscope all of the time-- especially when they are out socially together.
Even though she's always been a very friendly and outgoing person, Cindy notices that she's started to talk with fewer people at parties or clubs. She is beginning to hang out only with Jason in order to avoid arguments with him.
Cindy remembers the early days of her relationship with Jason, when their time together was fun, easy-going and romantic. She wishes that she could erase jealousy and get back to that time.
Like Cindy, you might be with a partner who is jealous. You may feel frustrated and fed up with being reined in and wrongly accused.
Or, you may be the one in your relationship who tends to get jealous. Try as you might to deny the fears and worries that crop up for you, they always return...your jealousy leads you to say or do things that you later regret.
Is it really possible to erase jealousy from your relationship?
It might not happen all at once and it might not be as easy as erasing a chalkboard, but it can be done.
You can overcome jealousy and literally wipe your relationship clean from its negative effects.
A first step is to acknowledge that jealousy is a problem for your relationship and that it is tearing you and your partner apart.
Even if your mate is the one who gets jealous, you can play a significant role in making your relationship jealousy-free.
Start out by recognizing the habits that you have that might be triggering to your partner.
Do you tend to flirt with others? Are you sometimes evasive or not completely honest about what you've been doing (even when it comes to minor matters)? How do you usually communicate when tension arises in your relationship.
All of these could potentially contribute to jealousy.
Whether you are the jealous one or your partner is, take an honest look at your part in the jealousy dynamic in your relationship. Even if your role seems to be less than your partner's role, own it.
Make a deliberate effort to improve in these areas. Support your partner as he or she does the same.
Cindy is fed up with her boyfriend Jason's jealous tirades. She feels wrongly accused and under a microscope all of the time-- especially when they are out socially together.
Even though she's always been a very friendly and outgoing person, Cindy notices that she's started to talk with fewer people at parties or clubs. She is beginning to hang out only with Jason in order to avoid arguments with him.
Cindy remembers the early days of her relationship with Jason, when their time together was fun, easy-going and romantic. She wishes that she could erase jealousy and get back to that time.
Like Cindy, you might be with a partner who is jealous. You may feel frustrated and fed up with being reined in and wrongly accused.
Or, you may be the one in your relationship who tends to get jealous. Try as you might to deny the fears and worries that crop up for you, they always return...your jealousy leads you to say or do things that you later regret.
Is it really possible to erase jealousy from your relationship?
It might not happen all at once and it might not be as easy as erasing a chalkboard, but it can be done.
You can overcome jealousy and literally wipe your relationship clean from its negative effects.
A first step is to acknowledge that jealousy is a problem for your relationship and that it is tearing you and your partner apart.
Even if your mate is the one who gets jealous, you can play a significant role in making your relationship jealousy-free.
Start out by recognizing the habits that you have that might be triggering to your partner.
Do you tend to flirt with others? Are you sometimes evasive or not completely honest about what you've been doing (even when it comes to minor matters)? How do you usually communicate when tension arises in your relationship.
All of these could potentially contribute to jealousy.
Whether you are the jealous one or your partner is, take an honest look at your part in the jealousy dynamic in your relationship. Even if your role seems to be less than your partner's role, own it.
Make a deliberate effort to improve in these areas. Support your partner as he or she does the same.
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