- 1). Keep your emotions under control as the argument or confrontation starts. Run through your argument very quickly in your head and organize your thoughts before saying anything.
- 2). Let the other party calmly know you disagree with them. Emphasize that your disagreement is based on an issue of principal or perspective rather than anything directly personal. Avoiding ad hominem, or personal, attacks will better prepare an audience for your points and prevent the argument from devolving into a fight.
- 3). State the basis for your disagreement in the matter. Explain how you've come to you judgment or belief in a concise manner.
- 4). Allow the opposition a few minutes to respond. Respect their position by not interrupting for a reasonable time even if you see the obvious flaws in their reasoning.
- 5). Point out where you believe they've slipped up or made a rush to judgment. Explain how you differ in your opinion and why you believe your position is preferred.
- 6). Close up the argument by restating your position and summarizing supporting material. Emphasize once again that the matter is strictly based on principle and not something personal. Excuse yourself from continuing the argument and let the matter rest momentarily until an agreement can be reached.
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