What happened? Did you or your boyfriend flee from the relationship? If you were on your way to making a joyful union and somehow got off track, do not worry. It is possible to learn how to get boyfriend back without driving him further away. You just need to learn the proper steps and a basic understanding of where to go from here.
You must ask yourself 4 questions:
1 - Is what caused the breakup actually important enough to warrant the attention it is getting?
2 - Is the argument appropriate now?
3 - Can you change anything, or make anything different, by winning the argument? Or is it better to just stop the argument and move on?
4 - Is the issue worth arguing about to begin with?
If your answer is no to any of the questions above, then stop. Stop pressing the matter and let it slide. Many many break ups can be prevented or quickly re-lit if a large argument is settled. Surprisingly enough, many breakup inducing argument are really completely unnecessary, and could be cast aside if only the parties involved could let the tension slide and move on.
Stop worrying about how people perceive you and be yourself. Hopefully this is the person your ex boyfriend fell for in the first place. It doesn't matter what people think, be yourself. You may be serious or funny, fat or thin, stupid or intelligent. Let go of these concerns. This is the only way that you can truly be yourself. Let yourself flow. You want people, especially that boyfriend, to see you for who you are not who you are trying to be.
You must distance your self from the boyfriend a little bit. This is hard to learn, but an important step in learning how to get boyfriend back. I know, this seems counterintuitive, but it is important. It is important to take yourself out of the situation mentally. This will help relieve the stress you are having with the break up. When you are calmer and more relaxed, and he is feeling the same way, then you have a much better chance of working things out. The resolution can now become part of the dialouge between you. A little distance never hurt anyone. It's important to stay in contact and maintain positive conversation and communication, but take the emotions out of the situation if you want to survive the conversation.
Once your head is clear, and his head is clear, this is when the situation can be truly analyzed for what it is. When you and your ex are no longer feeling so hot headed about the issue that led to the breakup, this is when you can sit down together and communicate through a solution.
Most breakups can be easily undone if you and your ex boyfriend can simply find the patience and civility to talk things through, so this should be your primary goal if you want to rekindle the flame with an ex significant other that you care significantly for.
You must ask yourself 4 questions:
1 - Is what caused the breakup actually important enough to warrant the attention it is getting?
2 - Is the argument appropriate now?
3 - Can you change anything, or make anything different, by winning the argument? Or is it better to just stop the argument and move on?
4 - Is the issue worth arguing about to begin with?
If your answer is no to any of the questions above, then stop. Stop pressing the matter and let it slide. Many many break ups can be prevented or quickly re-lit if a large argument is settled. Surprisingly enough, many breakup inducing argument are really completely unnecessary, and could be cast aside if only the parties involved could let the tension slide and move on.
Stop worrying about how people perceive you and be yourself. Hopefully this is the person your ex boyfriend fell for in the first place. It doesn't matter what people think, be yourself. You may be serious or funny, fat or thin, stupid or intelligent. Let go of these concerns. This is the only way that you can truly be yourself. Let yourself flow. You want people, especially that boyfriend, to see you for who you are not who you are trying to be.
You must distance your self from the boyfriend a little bit. This is hard to learn, but an important step in learning how to get boyfriend back. I know, this seems counterintuitive, but it is important. It is important to take yourself out of the situation mentally. This will help relieve the stress you are having with the break up. When you are calmer and more relaxed, and he is feeling the same way, then you have a much better chance of working things out. The resolution can now become part of the dialouge between you. A little distance never hurt anyone. It's important to stay in contact and maintain positive conversation and communication, but take the emotions out of the situation if you want to survive the conversation.
Once your head is clear, and his head is clear, this is when the situation can be truly analyzed for what it is. When you and your ex are no longer feeling so hot headed about the issue that led to the breakup, this is when you can sit down together and communicate through a solution.
Most breakups can be easily undone if you and your ex boyfriend can simply find the patience and civility to talk things through, so this should be your primary goal if you want to rekindle the flame with an ex significant other that you care significantly for.
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