How married women imagine their marriage bed is very different from what the married man imagines.
For married women, the marriage bed is less a space of sex than it is the experience of respect, care, and affection.
The images married women enjoy have to do with emotional connection and closeness.
That's not to say that married women don't enjoy the sheer physical pleasure of love making.
They do.
For the most part, married women are just as lusty as any married man.
But they need the added dimension of real emotional connectedness to make the sexual side of their marriage whole and complete.
To every married man who is reading this article -- I am not speaking to you as a psychologist, but just man to man.
You've no doubt heard about foreplay, taking time, going slow, making sure your wife is ready.
As a married man that's all true.
But what about emotional intimacy - making yourself emotionally available to her as she wants to make herself available to you? 1) Talk -- tell her what you're feeling.
Not just physical feelings, but what it means to be with her.
That's a part of foreplay married women need to transform their marriage bed into an experience of trust and excitement.
2) Tenderness -- is about emotional intimacy: knowing that feelings of the marriage bed are delicate, sometimes even raw, and must be respected.
It's not just about charging ahead toward the orgasm.
Emotional intimacy can include fear, weepiness, lust, distraction as part of her overall experience.
3) Time -- not clock time, but emotional time: the time it takes for an emotion to play itself through.
For example, if she becomes distracted she may need a few seconds to a few minutes to bring herself back to your marriage bed.
It's not a matter of you're being patient.
It's a matter of being attuned to where she's at and respecting what she needs to get herself back to you.
For married women the marriage bed is both a fun, romping place and a sacred place.
Married women need both, because their marriage bed is as much about being married as it is about sex.
Keeping romance alive is essential to enjoying your marriage bed as a romping space and a sacred space.
It's easier than you think.
It's all about being emotionally available to each other.
For married women, the marriage bed is less a space of sex than it is the experience of respect, care, and affection.
The images married women enjoy have to do with emotional connection and closeness.
That's not to say that married women don't enjoy the sheer physical pleasure of love making.
They do.
For the most part, married women are just as lusty as any married man.
But they need the added dimension of real emotional connectedness to make the sexual side of their marriage whole and complete.
To every married man who is reading this article -- I am not speaking to you as a psychologist, but just man to man.
You've no doubt heard about foreplay, taking time, going slow, making sure your wife is ready.
As a married man that's all true.
But what about emotional intimacy - making yourself emotionally available to her as she wants to make herself available to you? 1) Talk -- tell her what you're feeling.
Not just physical feelings, but what it means to be with her.
That's a part of foreplay married women need to transform their marriage bed into an experience of trust and excitement.
2) Tenderness -- is about emotional intimacy: knowing that feelings of the marriage bed are delicate, sometimes even raw, and must be respected.
It's not just about charging ahead toward the orgasm.
Emotional intimacy can include fear, weepiness, lust, distraction as part of her overall experience.
3) Time -- not clock time, but emotional time: the time it takes for an emotion to play itself through.
For example, if she becomes distracted she may need a few seconds to a few minutes to bring herself back to your marriage bed.
It's not a matter of you're being patient.
It's a matter of being attuned to where she's at and respecting what she needs to get herself back to you.
For married women the marriage bed is both a fun, romping place and a sacred place.
Married women need both, because their marriage bed is as much about being married as it is about sex.
Keeping romance alive is essential to enjoying your marriage bed as a romping space and a sacred space.
It's easier than you think.
It's all about being emotionally available to each other.
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