Women test men constantly. If you already knew it or just became aware of it, but the fact remains: every one of us has been tested by a woman. The problem is however, that most of us weren't even aware of it. Sadly, some of us aren't even aware of it now! That's because for many men, it's very hard to recognize a female test.
To know when a woman is testing you, you first have to understand what exactly a test is and how to recognize one. Basically testing is a screening tool to see if you have strength of character (or backbone, if you prefer this phrasing). For her it's a way to see how you would behave in certain situations. If you manage to pass her tests constantly, she will categorize you as an alpha male and feel attraction for you. If not, she will categorize you as a wimp and lose attraction (if there was any attraction to begin with).
And trust me, getting a girl interested again is a real challenge; sometimes even impossible. That's why you have pass most of her tests so she will become and stay attracted. So, be ready to get tested constantly. But surely if you have passed most of her test and are now in a relationship with her, you don't have to worry about them again, right? Wrong!
A woman will test the same guy through the whole relationship. For her it's important to see, if he's still is the man who she fell for. Women can't stay sure if the guy, who she found so attractive in the beginning of the relationship, is still the same. So she tests him and if he constantly fails these tests, she will lose interest. There is even an old saying: "A man marries a woman hoping she never changes. A woman marries a man looking to change him."
With passing time however, she will need less and less proof (if you manage to pass her tests most of the time) and feels safe knowing that you are in fact a man who has backbone and when needed, can protect her. That's what a woman really wants - to feel safe.
Now, here is a scary fact for you: a woman isn't always testing you on purpose. Sometimes she isn't even aware of it. And if you have ever been in a relationship, you probably have experienced it yourself. When she acts "all weird" and doesn't even know herself why she's behaving like that, she is subconsciously testing you.
Nevertheless, should you fail these tests, she will feel that something is off and lose attraction. She doesn't even know what, but she feels it in her gut and start act accordingly. This means she might start to ignore you or won't react to you the way you hoped for.
Sometimes women don't even have to say anything to test you. Just imagine you have met a girl you are attracted to. So you go to talk to her and she gives you the cold shoulder. This can even be a test to see how you will respond to it. If you manage to stay cool and not let her behavior dictate yours, she will eventually warm up to you. By now, you are probably are pretty eager to know, how women test you. So let me explain it to you.
It's actually pretty simple and straightforward. She is constantly seeking your reaction on how you act towards her. If she says something just to get a reaction from you and to put you on the defensive, she is testing you. And if you react, you have failed her test. So the best tip I can give you is to not become defensive when she says or does something. Don't let her behavior affect you in any way and you will pass her test.
The one thing however you should avoid at all costs is to get too paranoid and take everything what a girl says or does as a test. Not everything is a test! If you start to take every little thing as a test, it will backfire on you. If she is a stranger to you and doesn't respond to you at all, sometimes you need to let it go and not to take it as a test. Sometimes she just says things that are on her mind and isn't testing you, so if you respond to her as if you would respond to a test, it will definitely backfire.
Women test men constantly and the best way to distinguish if she is testing you or not, is to have a core understanding of the female psyche. This doesn't mean you have to know everything about her; only what makes a woman tick. Armed with this knowledge, you can separate a test from something she really says (means) and does.
To know when a woman is testing you, you first have to understand what exactly a test is and how to recognize one. Basically testing is a screening tool to see if you have strength of character (or backbone, if you prefer this phrasing). For her it's a way to see how you would behave in certain situations. If you manage to pass her tests constantly, she will categorize you as an alpha male and feel attraction for you. If not, she will categorize you as a wimp and lose attraction (if there was any attraction to begin with).
And trust me, getting a girl interested again is a real challenge; sometimes even impossible. That's why you have pass most of her tests so she will become and stay attracted. So, be ready to get tested constantly. But surely if you have passed most of her test and are now in a relationship with her, you don't have to worry about them again, right? Wrong!
A woman will test the same guy through the whole relationship. For her it's important to see, if he's still is the man who she fell for. Women can't stay sure if the guy, who she found so attractive in the beginning of the relationship, is still the same. So she tests him and if he constantly fails these tests, she will lose interest. There is even an old saying: "A man marries a woman hoping she never changes. A woman marries a man looking to change him."
With passing time however, she will need less and less proof (if you manage to pass her tests most of the time) and feels safe knowing that you are in fact a man who has backbone and when needed, can protect her. That's what a woman really wants - to feel safe.
Now, here is a scary fact for you: a woman isn't always testing you on purpose. Sometimes she isn't even aware of it. And if you have ever been in a relationship, you probably have experienced it yourself. When she acts "all weird" and doesn't even know herself why she's behaving like that, she is subconsciously testing you.
Nevertheless, should you fail these tests, she will feel that something is off and lose attraction. She doesn't even know what, but she feels it in her gut and start act accordingly. This means she might start to ignore you or won't react to you the way you hoped for.
Sometimes women don't even have to say anything to test you. Just imagine you have met a girl you are attracted to. So you go to talk to her and she gives you the cold shoulder. This can even be a test to see how you will respond to it. If you manage to stay cool and not let her behavior dictate yours, she will eventually warm up to you. By now, you are probably are pretty eager to know, how women test you. So let me explain it to you.
It's actually pretty simple and straightforward. She is constantly seeking your reaction on how you act towards her. If she says something just to get a reaction from you and to put you on the defensive, she is testing you. And if you react, you have failed her test. So the best tip I can give you is to not become defensive when she says or does something. Don't let her behavior affect you in any way and you will pass her test.
The one thing however you should avoid at all costs is to get too paranoid and take everything what a girl says or does as a test. Not everything is a test! If you start to take every little thing as a test, it will backfire on you. If she is a stranger to you and doesn't respond to you at all, sometimes you need to let it go and not to take it as a test. Sometimes she just says things that are on her mind and isn't testing you, so if you respond to her as if you would respond to a test, it will definitely backfire.
Women test men constantly and the best way to distinguish if she is testing you or not, is to have a core understanding of the female psyche. This doesn't mean you have to know everything about her; only what makes a woman tick. Armed with this knowledge, you can separate a test from something she really says (means) and does.
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