 What does it take to win over and get the guy?  Women have complained often about the lack of male perspective on dating. I find that most of your bookstore relationship materials deal with marriage relationships but very few deal with how to attract the opposite sex. Where do we meet them and how do we get dates? Unless you learn how, you will have to settle for whatever comes along. I will list what will get a guy's attention and what he finds attractive.
1.Hang out where guys are. This will increase your chances of getting a date. The more guys you are exposed to the better the chances of getting a guy. Is it a gym where men usually outnumber women? How about some functions at church that doesn't have to do with a service. How about a martial class? If you are in college, join a club, which will make it much easier to get to know the person instead of cold approaches. It's very hard for a guy to approach women right off the streets and so when you are in the same gathering it gives him an excuse to get to know you.
2.When you are out in public and you see a guy you like, make eye contact, smile, and say hi. We are attracted to friendly people. You are letting the guy know that you are approachable. Remember a nice smile, confidence, and a happy person is sexy.
3.Initiate conversation. You can use what is going on in the surrounding as a conversation starter. You can compliment his fashion.  There is no fear of rejection because you are just being friendly. Think, a popular person is always friendly. They are the ones who approach everyone to introduce themselves. Don't have in your mind that you are looking at him like a future husband or boyfriend but just a friend; it will be less pressure on you. All great relationships have friendship as a foundation. So if you want to get the guy you have to speak up.Â
4.Don't play hard to get. If you play hard to get, a guy will either assume you are not interested or you have a boyfriend and eventually lose interest.Â
5.Pursue your passion. Don't sit around like you are waiting to be pick in a 6th grade gym class. When someone pursues their passion it makes them more attractive and gives them identity and raises their self-esteem. The more valuable you make yourself the more options you will have in life and relationships.
6.Become interesting. Everyone wants to focus on the outside appearance but most of the game of attraction occurs on the inside. I would say it's 70% inside and 30% outside. So how does one become interesting? Live an interesting life. Save up money to travel, go help the homeless and needy, learn how to dance, take singing lessons, learn a musical instrument, be excellent at one thing, learn another language, take cooking lessons, do something that make you feel alive. The best investment is in yourself
7.     Be what you want to attract. You will usuallyattract people just like you. If you like a guy who is in shape, start working out and get in shape. If you like guys who are cerebral start reading and take in new information to stimulate your brain. Also how you dress will convey a lot about your identity and the group you affiliate with. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself because it will affect how you feel about who you are. When you do thing to make you feel better about yourself you become more confident and when you become more confident you start to open up and when you open up you can emotionally connect. You don't have to be the best looking, smartest, riches, or most talented to get the guy. When you emotionally connect/click with him more than others you will win. We call this chemistry.
If you would like to learn more i would highly recommend How to Get the Guy
There are a few steps you can follow to land yourself a date.
1.Hang out where guys are. This will increase your chances of getting a date. The more guys you are exposed to the better the chances of getting a guy. Is it a gym where men usually outnumber women? How about some functions at church that doesn't have to do with a service. How about a martial class? If you are in college, join a club, which will make it much easier to get to know the person instead of cold approaches. It's very hard for a guy to approach women right off the streets and so when you are in the same gathering it gives him an excuse to get to know you.
2.When you are out in public and you see a guy you like, make eye contact, smile, and say hi. We are attracted to friendly people. You are letting the guy know that you are approachable. Remember a nice smile, confidence, and a happy person is sexy.
3.Initiate conversation. You can use what is going on in the surrounding as a conversation starter. You can compliment his fashion.  There is no fear of rejection because you are just being friendly. Think, a popular person is always friendly. They are the ones who approach everyone to introduce themselves. Don't have in your mind that you are looking at him like a future husband or boyfriend but just a friend; it will be less pressure on you. All great relationships have friendship as a foundation. So if you want to get the guy you have to speak up.Â
4.Don't play hard to get. If you play hard to get, a guy will either assume you are not interested or you have a boyfriend and eventually lose interest.Â
5.Pursue your passion. Don't sit around like you are waiting to be pick in a 6th grade gym class. When someone pursues their passion it makes them more attractive and gives them identity and raises their self-esteem. The more valuable you make yourself the more options you will have in life and relationships.
6.Become interesting. Everyone wants to focus on the outside appearance but most of the game of attraction occurs on the inside. I would say it's 70% inside and 30% outside. So how does one become interesting? Live an interesting life. Save up money to travel, go help the homeless and needy, learn how to dance, take singing lessons, learn a musical instrument, be excellent at one thing, learn another language, take cooking lessons, do something that make you feel alive. The best investment is in yourself
7.     Be what you want to attract. You will usuallyattract people just like you. If you like a guy who is in shape, start working out and get in shape. If you like guys who are cerebral start reading and take in new information to stimulate your brain. Also how you dress will convey a lot about your identity and the group you affiliate with. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself because it will affect how you feel about who you are. When you do thing to make you feel better about yourself you become more confident and when you become more confident you start to open up and when you open up you can emotionally connect. You don't have to be the best looking, smartest, riches, or most talented to get the guy. When you emotionally connect/click with him more than others you will win. We call this chemistry.
If you would like to learn more i would highly recommend How to Get the Guy
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