In this article I would like to talk about some dating tips for women that I know will help you go a long way towards attracting a quality guy into your life.
Specifically, I want to handle an area of the dating process that seems to allude many women, which is the idea of "relationship entitlement".
I strongly believe that the reason most women are terrified of the dating process is because we tend to view everything in terms of either success or rejection.
If the desired outcome is to ultimately be in a fantastic relationship, then each step along the way that builds towards that goal must be thought of as a success! And everything else that stands in the way of that outcome becoming real, is a failure.
It all starts with this concept: Stop feeling like you are owed a relationship! This is what I'm referring to when I say "relationship entitlement".
Stop feeling as though you have to 'hurry up and get there'.
Know what? There is no "there".
"There" is actually here, because right now is all you'll ever have.
Being present and in the moment are concepts that were originally pioneered a long time ago (i.
e.
, I didn't invent them), but they are incredibly helpful when you find yourself getting tied up, angst-ridden, and stressed out about when things are going to start happening.
And by the way, getting your head around this concept is something that is going to turn you into a Man Magnet in a hurry! It's also unbelievably empowering.
This is because it puts the focus on learning, rather than outward indicators of success (like a boyfriend or a ring).
By making that one simple shift, changing your focus from getting a guy to learning about love, you'll set yourself apart from the 99% of other women out there who are competing for the attention and affection of the opposite sex.
And incidentally, it also boosts your individuality by approximately infinity, because you're no longer crippled by nerves or anxiety or that overwhelming desire to act a certain way.
So give up the old metaphor of "getting a man" and try some new ones on for size.
Try thinking about relationships like this: People either feel connected to one another, or they don't.
The possibility of connection depends on their mood, the environment, the timing, and a multitude of other factors, of which you are only a small part.
So when a man reject you, it's not like he's seen the real you and then decided that you're not worthy.
It's just that, for whatever reason, a connection has not been created.
So it's not about you.
It's not even about him.
It's about whether or not a connection, something external and something over which you have very little immediate control, has been created or not.
Specifically, I want to handle an area of the dating process that seems to allude many women, which is the idea of "relationship entitlement".
I strongly believe that the reason most women are terrified of the dating process is because we tend to view everything in terms of either success or rejection.
If the desired outcome is to ultimately be in a fantastic relationship, then each step along the way that builds towards that goal must be thought of as a success! And everything else that stands in the way of that outcome becoming real, is a failure.
It all starts with this concept: Stop feeling like you are owed a relationship! This is what I'm referring to when I say "relationship entitlement".
Stop feeling as though you have to 'hurry up and get there'.
Know what? There is no "there".
"There" is actually here, because right now is all you'll ever have.
Being present and in the moment are concepts that were originally pioneered a long time ago (i.
e.
, I didn't invent them), but they are incredibly helpful when you find yourself getting tied up, angst-ridden, and stressed out about when things are going to start happening.
And by the way, getting your head around this concept is something that is going to turn you into a Man Magnet in a hurry! It's also unbelievably empowering.
This is because it puts the focus on learning, rather than outward indicators of success (like a boyfriend or a ring).
By making that one simple shift, changing your focus from getting a guy to learning about love, you'll set yourself apart from the 99% of other women out there who are competing for the attention and affection of the opposite sex.
And incidentally, it also boosts your individuality by approximately infinity, because you're no longer crippled by nerves or anxiety or that overwhelming desire to act a certain way.
So give up the old metaphor of "getting a man" and try some new ones on for size.
Try thinking about relationships like this: People either feel connected to one another, or they don't.
The possibility of connection depends on their mood, the environment, the timing, and a multitude of other factors, of which you are only a small part.
So when a man reject you, it's not like he's seen the real you and then decided that you're not worthy.
It's just that, for whatever reason, a connection has not been created.
So it's not about you.
It's not even about him.
It's about whether or not a connection, something external and something over which you have very little immediate control, has been created or not.
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