Reflecting upon her experiences, Tomi was in disbelief at how she behaved around a guy she refers to as Yacht Man. "I was 33, newly divorced and with my two small children," says Tomi, who is the writer of 101 Things I Learned After My Divorce. "The guy was affluent, handsome, and he was expressing interest in me - at the beginning. Soon, it started to feel like a one way relationship because I was calling him more than the other way around. I would write him notes and leave these on his door asking him to meet up with me somewhere and he'd never appear. I'd go where I know he hangs out and hope to meet him by chance. I thought if he wasn't really interested in me, he would honestly tell me about it."
As if it would ever happen that way. We all are not sure how to tell someone we are not interested anymore. Guys tend to not be direct about it and you'd have to read his actions instead.
The problem does not lie in your perception, it's in your logic. You would always rationalize his behavior that would suit the reality you would rather have. If he hasn't bothered to call you for days, you would make up excuses like maybe he's doing this or that or something is wrong. The reality is that you're only fooling yourself. You would justify the guy's shady behavior just because you do not want to lose him.
Women have a difficult time getting out of unhealthy relationships. They are afraid of change, uncertainty, being single again and not being able to find anyone who is better so she would rather look the other way even if the guy isn't treating her right anymore. I'm very positive about ditching a guy like that. He's a total waste of time and any decent guy out there who couldn't be as good looking or affluent would be a better choice than this inconsiderate schmuck who doesn't have the balls to set you free. Of course, you must know that you are partly responsible for your delusions.
Some women would even go as far as please the guy and hope to change his mind. What on earth were they thinking? It's bad enough that the guy doesn't see any future with them but they would demonstrate their willingness to be manipulative and seduce him.
Girls, keep yourselves in check. If a guy really wants to be with you, he will meet you halfway. Don't build the bridge yourselves. Have a little more pride.
As if it would ever happen that way. We all are not sure how to tell someone we are not interested anymore. Guys tend to not be direct about it and you'd have to read his actions instead.
The problem does not lie in your perception, it's in your logic. You would always rationalize his behavior that would suit the reality you would rather have. If he hasn't bothered to call you for days, you would make up excuses like maybe he's doing this or that or something is wrong. The reality is that you're only fooling yourself. You would justify the guy's shady behavior just because you do not want to lose him.
Women have a difficult time getting out of unhealthy relationships. They are afraid of change, uncertainty, being single again and not being able to find anyone who is better so she would rather look the other way even if the guy isn't treating her right anymore. I'm very positive about ditching a guy like that. He's a total waste of time and any decent guy out there who couldn't be as good looking or affluent would be a better choice than this inconsiderate schmuck who doesn't have the balls to set you free. Of course, you must know that you are partly responsible for your delusions.
Some women would even go as far as please the guy and hope to change his mind. What on earth were they thinking? It's bad enough that the guy doesn't see any future with them but they would demonstrate their willingness to be manipulative and seduce him.
Girls, keep yourselves in check. If a guy really wants to be with you, he will meet you halfway. Don't build the bridge yourselves. Have a little more pride.
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