Dating after divorce causes many reactions.
Some of the biggest reactions will be from your children.
Today, let's take a look at some of the potential reactions to help you prepare yourself rather than be taken by surprise.
What - Don't be shocked if the kids ask you what you do on a date.
Even teenagers may find themselves interested in what you, as their parent, does on a date.
Be sure to pay attention to what your dates consist of.
If you're meeting or finding dates at bars all the time, is that a questions you're going to want to answer when asked? Who - Some of the first questions you're going to get have to do with who this person you're dating is.
Where did you meet them? What are they like? Do they have kids and if so, how old are they? Think ahead of time about how much you want to tell the kids about your dating partner.
Where - This has less to do with where your dates take place, but more about "Where is this heading?" Kids are going to want to know if this relationship is getting serious.
Is this going to turn into a permanent thing? Am I going to have to meet this person? Is there a possibility you might marry this new person? When - I can guarantee that you kids are going to be concerned about this one.
They're going to want to make sure that your dating doesn't interfere with their lives.
Is this new activity of yours going to intrude on the time your kids get to spend with you? Why - You deciding to date, can be a little disconcerting.
The fact that their parents aren't going to get back together seems a little more real if you're actually dating someone else now.
Kids may question why you think it's necessary to date.
They may want to know "why now?", because they're still hoping with enough time you and their other parent may reconcile.
While dating after divorce is a normal step forward, be prepared to answer those questions your kids will pose.
Never forget though that you are the adult in this situation.
If your kids ask a question you are uncomfortable answering, no one says you have to answer them all.
I would caution you to think about why their question makes you uncomfortable though.
Is it something that you don't feel is appropriate for them to know right now, or is it because you're embarrassed by your actions and don't your kids to know?
Some of the biggest reactions will be from your children.
Today, let's take a look at some of the potential reactions to help you prepare yourself rather than be taken by surprise.
What - Don't be shocked if the kids ask you what you do on a date.
Even teenagers may find themselves interested in what you, as their parent, does on a date.
Be sure to pay attention to what your dates consist of.
If you're meeting or finding dates at bars all the time, is that a questions you're going to want to answer when asked? Who - Some of the first questions you're going to get have to do with who this person you're dating is.
Where did you meet them? What are they like? Do they have kids and if so, how old are they? Think ahead of time about how much you want to tell the kids about your dating partner.
Where - This has less to do with where your dates take place, but more about "Where is this heading?" Kids are going to want to know if this relationship is getting serious.
Is this going to turn into a permanent thing? Am I going to have to meet this person? Is there a possibility you might marry this new person? When - I can guarantee that you kids are going to be concerned about this one.
They're going to want to make sure that your dating doesn't interfere with their lives.
Is this new activity of yours going to intrude on the time your kids get to spend with you? Why - You deciding to date, can be a little disconcerting.
The fact that their parents aren't going to get back together seems a little more real if you're actually dating someone else now.
Kids may question why you think it's necessary to date.
They may want to know "why now?", because they're still hoping with enough time you and their other parent may reconcile.
While dating after divorce is a normal step forward, be prepared to answer those questions your kids will pose.
Never forget though that you are the adult in this situation.
If your kids ask a question you are uncomfortable answering, no one says you have to answer them all.
I would caution you to think about why their question makes you uncomfortable though.
Is it something that you don't feel is appropriate for them to know right now, or is it because you're embarrassed by your actions and don't your kids to know?
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