My wife loves me but she snores! It's not a cute, delicate sound like you see in a television bedroom, but one that makes the house shake and cracks appear in the sheetrock. While that may be somewhat of an exaggeration, it is generally true. My ears assure me that description is accurate!
When we first got married we knew that nothing short of death would keep us from sleeping in the same bed. This was written in stone from the time we were children. If a married couple ever decided to sleep in separate beds, it meant their marriage was in trouble and they were probably going to get a divorce and split up the kids.
The old line that love is blind is not only correct, but love is also deaf. As the years pass we realized we were still in love, but somewhere along the way we learned to like each other as well. Besides snoring she also has a sleeping problem. She rarely sleeps more than two hours at a stretch, and then she is awake for another two hours or so.
She isn't the only one who has sleep issues. After taking handfuls of medicines preventing heart problems, cholesterol difficulties, stroke worries and a basket load of other minor complications, I wake up every hour to go to the bathroom.
If she has just gone back to sleep during that time, after being awaked by my last trek to the toilet, it would be cruel to arouse her again in one hour. If I had to head for the bathroom when she was awake, we would have an ideal situation, but it has never worked that way.
Somewhere during our life together, my wife discovered earplugs. At first she would stuff them in her ears because they would diminish the sound of me getting up and moving about the room. Later it was because they worked astonishingly well in drowning out the sound of her own snoring.
The earplugs didn't work well in concealing my activities since she could feel the bed move when I got up to leave the room. We had to think of some way to address her sleep needs and my bathroom requirements.
We finally worked out a compromise. She sleeps in one room and I sleep in another. It's a good thing to do if you have issues with each other's sleep habits, but it does involve some careful thinking and communication. Primarily each party must be convinced that the two of you are going to separate at night strictly because of physical disabilities; she snores loudly and doesn't sleep and you get up many times a night and keep her awake. But when the occasion arises, we sleep together for a while.
Newlyweds who have no past experience with someone that snores sometimes freak out when faced with an unpleasant night ahead of listening to the sound a tugboat pulling a barge down the river. They panic when they find that each other has thought of sleeping alone, but it is not the end of their marriage. Isn't America a great place to live; almost everyone has a spare bedroom.
When we first got married we knew that nothing short of death would keep us from sleeping in the same bed. This was written in stone from the time we were children. If a married couple ever decided to sleep in separate beds, it meant their marriage was in trouble and they were probably going to get a divorce and split up the kids.
The old line that love is blind is not only correct, but love is also deaf. As the years pass we realized we were still in love, but somewhere along the way we learned to like each other as well. Besides snoring she also has a sleeping problem. She rarely sleeps more than two hours at a stretch, and then she is awake for another two hours or so.
She isn't the only one who has sleep issues. After taking handfuls of medicines preventing heart problems, cholesterol difficulties, stroke worries and a basket load of other minor complications, I wake up every hour to go to the bathroom.
If she has just gone back to sleep during that time, after being awaked by my last trek to the toilet, it would be cruel to arouse her again in one hour. If I had to head for the bathroom when she was awake, we would have an ideal situation, but it has never worked that way.
Somewhere during our life together, my wife discovered earplugs. At first she would stuff them in her ears because they would diminish the sound of me getting up and moving about the room. Later it was because they worked astonishingly well in drowning out the sound of her own snoring.
The earplugs didn't work well in concealing my activities since she could feel the bed move when I got up to leave the room. We had to think of some way to address her sleep needs and my bathroom requirements.
We finally worked out a compromise. She sleeps in one room and I sleep in another. It's a good thing to do if you have issues with each other's sleep habits, but it does involve some careful thinking and communication. Primarily each party must be convinced that the two of you are going to separate at night strictly because of physical disabilities; she snores loudly and doesn't sleep and you get up many times a night and keep her awake. But when the occasion arises, we sleep together for a while.
Newlyweds who have no past experience with someone that snores sometimes freak out when faced with an unpleasant night ahead of listening to the sound a tugboat pulling a barge down the river. They panic when they find that each other has thought of sleeping alone, but it is not the end of their marriage. Isn't America a great place to live; almost everyone has a spare bedroom.
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