So your about to have sex with someone for the very first time and you think you're the worlds best lover.
Everybody says they are good in bed.
I've never met anyone who has said to me "You know David, I am really bad in bed!" Everybody thinks they are a fantastic lover.
Let's talk about this, because you know I have an opinion.
I've been with some really terrible lovers.
I've been with some women that were so bad in bed, that I wouldn't even recommend them to a virgin client of mine.
The truth is, though, that what makes someone bad or good in bed is very subjective.
For instance, a woman I slept with a LONG time ago I thought was extremely boring in bed.
My friend didn't think so...
and he ended up marrying her.
We all have different desires and different ways we like to have sex.
I've been with some women with whom I just don't feel like I'm the best I can be.
Hmmm...
Now that the Kay's Jewelers song is out, can I start singing the Army song "Be All That You Can Be?" It really comes down to chemistry.
If you don't have chemistry with somebody, you will not be a good lover with them.
You might just be mediocre.
There are times when I am so good in bed that I want to give myself an Oscar.
I am sure you've all had those moments when you just know you have brought your "A" game to the sheets that night.
Then there are other times and circumstances when you were just not your most dynamic, acrobatic, Cirque du Soleil self...
and that's okay.
Being good in bed is really subjective.
Now I think all of us can improve and become better lovers.
There's always another position to learn.
There's always another way you can learn to kiss.
There's always a new way you can learn to use your fingers and tongue.
For the women, there are always new things you can learn to do to men to please them.
Some men love getting head, and some don't.
Some men can last for hours, while others are "minute men" because they heard the Redcoats are coming.
We are all different.
We're all really different lovers.
In order to find out what type of lover will be great for you, you need to figure out the type of lover you are.
Now that we're already talking about this, though, let's dig even deeper.
I've written before about when it is the right time to have sex.
For some of you, as long as the other person is breathing it is the right time to have sex.
Other people like to wait until they get to know someone for a month before they will have sex.
As for me personally, I have sex when it feels right.
That could mean having sex on the first date, having sex on the tenth date, or it could mean having sex in the first five minutes.
I promise you that if it's in the first five minutes, I won't be performing like the Redcoats are coming.
I like to have sex for a long time.
All night long is my favorite.
As a matter of fact, Lionel Richie wrote a song called "All Night Long"...
and I can play it for a woman all night long.
The bottom line is this: Define yourself as a lover, and then be honest with the person you're with about what kind of lover you are.
That way, you'll pick your lovers a lot better in the future.
If you are crazy in bed, you'll NEVER ever be satisfied with someone who is conservative in bed.
This is not to say that people can't change or learn from each other (which they can), but there are people who are a certain way in bed and they like who they are.
Sometimes people don't change, and you need to accept that.
It's all about being honest.
Everybody says they are good in bed.
I've never met anyone who has said to me "You know David, I am really bad in bed!" Everybody thinks they are a fantastic lover.
Let's talk about this, because you know I have an opinion.
I've been with some really terrible lovers.
I've been with some women that were so bad in bed, that I wouldn't even recommend them to a virgin client of mine.
The truth is, though, that what makes someone bad or good in bed is very subjective.
For instance, a woman I slept with a LONG time ago I thought was extremely boring in bed.
My friend didn't think so...
and he ended up marrying her.
We all have different desires and different ways we like to have sex.
I've been with some women with whom I just don't feel like I'm the best I can be.
Hmmm...
Now that the Kay's Jewelers song is out, can I start singing the Army song "Be All That You Can Be?" It really comes down to chemistry.
If you don't have chemistry with somebody, you will not be a good lover with them.
You might just be mediocre.
There are times when I am so good in bed that I want to give myself an Oscar.
I am sure you've all had those moments when you just know you have brought your "A" game to the sheets that night.
Then there are other times and circumstances when you were just not your most dynamic, acrobatic, Cirque du Soleil self...
and that's okay.
Being good in bed is really subjective.
Now I think all of us can improve and become better lovers.
There's always another position to learn.
There's always another way you can learn to kiss.
There's always a new way you can learn to use your fingers and tongue.
For the women, there are always new things you can learn to do to men to please them.
Some men love getting head, and some don't.
Some men can last for hours, while others are "minute men" because they heard the Redcoats are coming.
We are all different.
We're all really different lovers.
In order to find out what type of lover will be great for you, you need to figure out the type of lover you are.
- What do you enjoy?
- What do you like when you're in bed with someone?
- What is a must for you to have in a relationship?
- What do you do if you're dating a woman who is phenomenal in bed but doesn't like when you go down on her, and that's your favorite thing to do?
- What if you like to have sex in the morning and she doesn't?
- What if about the kinkiest thing the woman you're with will do is masturbate in front of you, while you are extremely kinky and like to have sex in your car while stuck in traffic on the 405?
Now that we're already talking about this, though, let's dig even deeper.
I've written before about when it is the right time to have sex.
For some of you, as long as the other person is breathing it is the right time to have sex.
Other people like to wait until they get to know someone for a month before they will have sex.
As for me personally, I have sex when it feels right.
That could mean having sex on the first date, having sex on the tenth date, or it could mean having sex in the first five minutes.
I promise you that if it's in the first five minutes, I won't be performing like the Redcoats are coming.
I like to have sex for a long time.
All night long is my favorite.
As a matter of fact, Lionel Richie wrote a song called "All Night Long"...
and I can play it for a woman all night long.
The bottom line is this: Define yourself as a lover, and then be honest with the person you're with about what kind of lover you are.
That way, you'll pick your lovers a lot better in the future.
If you are crazy in bed, you'll NEVER ever be satisfied with someone who is conservative in bed.
This is not to say that people can't change or learn from each other (which they can), but there are people who are a certain way in bed and they like who they are.
Sometimes people don't change, and you need to accept that.
It's all about being honest.
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