The word "player" stirs up all kinds of negative connotations.
On a logical level, women think he's manipulative, afraid of commitment, and cares only about his sexual pursuits.
But a closer look at the truth shows that women hook up with players more than any other of the male archetypal types.
And there's a good reason for this.
The player has a keen sense of social intuition through practice, practice, and more practice.
He's experienced with picking up women and understands what women really want, at least in the early stage of the relationship.
The term "player" is used by women to instill guilt in men who date more than one woman at a time.
Some women have been hurt by men in the past, the most common case being an ex boyfriend who had cheated on her, and these damaged women can be hostile towards players.
Misdirecting her anger from past negative experiences, she resents the player, thinking of him as misogynistic, deceitful, or just a bad person.
And it's not only women.
Many emasculated men have also jumped on the politically correct bandwagon.
These frustrated guys with little or no experience with women righteously judge him as a man of weak character who is indiscriminate in his pursuit of women.
So let's set the record straight.
Here's my take on the whole thing: Beware of the terms "player," "pickup," and "the game" and their negative connotations.
There is nothing wrong with dating multiple women at the same time, as long as it's done in an honorable way:
Don't delude yourself with misconceptions; women casually with many men too.
The player is well aware of this.
Unlike the nice guy who will put up with a subpar woman in an exclusive relationship for far too long, the player avoids this trap since he is comfortable playing the field.
There's no hang-up about dating multiple women.
It has nothing to do with being disrespectful or misogynistic.
(How are you going to find Ms.
Right if you're not dating many women throughout your life?) When most guys find an enticing woman, they focus all their attention on only her, ruining any chance he has with her.
This kind of obsession, thinking that you found "the one," is a guaranteed attraction-killer.
Women don't want to be in an exclusive relationship with a man right away.
When you make one woman the center of your world - when you put all your eggs in one basket - you have no buffer to protect your confidence and self image.
When you date only one woman, you have no options.
Understand that you have more choices with women than you'll ever need.
Life's a playground, at least for a while.
Having said that, there is something that the player can NOT give to women, something that is critical in every monogamous relationship...
This missing element is trust.
Understand that the game will somewhat change when you do find yourself in an exclusive relationship.
When you find a woman you want to keep around for a while, it's OK to show your more vulnerable side as well.
You don't need to be "playing the game" all the time.
That being said, women are more attracted to men who don't need them, so don't be too hasty in jumping in this kind of relationship with a woman too quickly.
You'll be far more attractive to women if you are perceived as a challenge.
On a logical level, women think he's manipulative, afraid of commitment, and cares only about his sexual pursuits.
But a closer look at the truth shows that women hook up with players more than any other of the male archetypal types.
And there's a good reason for this.
The player has a keen sense of social intuition through practice, practice, and more practice.
He's experienced with picking up women and understands what women really want, at least in the early stage of the relationship.
The term "player" is used by women to instill guilt in men who date more than one woman at a time.
Some women have been hurt by men in the past, the most common case being an ex boyfriend who had cheated on her, and these damaged women can be hostile towards players.
Misdirecting her anger from past negative experiences, she resents the player, thinking of him as misogynistic, deceitful, or just a bad person.
And it's not only women.
Many emasculated men have also jumped on the politically correct bandwagon.
These frustrated guys with little or no experience with women righteously judge him as a man of weak character who is indiscriminate in his pursuit of women.
So let's set the record straight.
Here's my take on the whole thing: Beware of the terms "player," "pickup," and "the game" and their negative connotations.
There is nothing wrong with dating multiple women at the same time, as long as it's done in an honorable way:
- You are not lying about the other women you're dating
- You don't talk about the other women because they have nothing to do her
- You are being direct with what you want in your relationships
Don't delude yourself with misconceptions; women casually with many men too.
The player is well aware of this.
Unlike the nice guy who will put up with a subpar woman in an exclusive relationship for far too long, the player avoids this trap since he is comfortable playing the field.
There's no hang-up about dating multiple women.
It has nothing to do with being disrespectful or misogynistic.
(How are you going to find Ms.
Right if you're not dating many women throughout your life?) When most guys find an enticing woman, they focus all their attention on only her, ruining any chance he has with her.
This kind of obsession, thinking that you found "the one," is a guaranteed attraction-killer.
Women don't want to be in an exclusive relationship with a man right away.
When you make one woman the center of your world - when you put all your eggs in one basket - you have no buffer to protect your confidence and self image.
When you date only one woman, you have no options.
Understand that you have more choices with women than you'll ever need.
Life's a playground, at least for a while.
Having said that, there is something that the player can NOT give to women, something that is critical in every monogamous relationship...
This missing element is trust.
Understand that the game will somewhat change when you do find yourself in an exclusive relationship.
When you find a woman you want to keep around for a while, it's OK to show your more vulnerable side as well.
You don't need to be "playing the game" all the time.
That being said, women are more attracted to men who don't need them, so don't be too hasty in jumping in this kind of relationship with a woman too quickly.
You'll be far more attractive to women if you are perceived as a challenge.
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