No one chooses the family of origin that they were born into, especially unhealthy ones.
You might have had a neglectful parent, or had a parent that abandoned the family when you were very young.
Your parent might have been there, but somehow, were abusive or were unable to connect with you on a healthy level.
While it can affect the relationships you choose in your adult years, it doesn't mean you are fated to be stuck in painful relationships for the rest of your life.
Young children as well as adults want answers too for why they went through what they went through.
When we reach adult years, we often want answers to why our relationship with our mothers or fathers were just so difficult.
We search for answers and often it plays out in choosing partners who are bad for us.
They abuse you, reject you, or abandon you just as your parent did.
Many internalize that something is wrong with them, rather than the parent having an inability to parent them properly.
When a father or mother abuses, abandons or neglects a child, it is often a reflection of defects in that parent.
A young child isn't able to understand that, but instead internalizes it as something wrong with him or her to elicit that kind of reaction from the parent.
Yes, any parent will tell you that parenting is challenging.
Here, I'm referring to the possibilities that your parent also experienced abuse or neglect while they were a child.
In turn, they repeated what they knew upon you.
Here's what's different, while you may not have gotten to chose how your childhood turned out, you can choose how you want your adulthood to be like.
Good and sound therapy will often have an influential part in recognizing and preventing future unhappy relationships by unfolding and bringing to light ingrained unhealthy patterns in relationships.
You can not adjust what you do not recognize as unhealthy.
When you see what's been unhealthy, you are also empowered to throw out those styles of relating that hindered you.
You might have also had very little experience with asking for your needs to be met, and voicing what those needs are.
All healthy relationships have a dynamic of give and take.
Therapy often gives a place for exploring what that might look like or sound like.
An attuned therapist will also help challenge some of the mindsets that keep you from progressing forward.
Our mindsets are powerful and play a major role in how we relate to others.
Limiting mindsets will make you believe that you don't deserve to be treated with respect and care.
It can also make you believe that there's no one else if you end the relationship that's causing you a lot of pain.
Throughout the therapy process, you will also begin to recognize 'red flags' in behaviors and in potential partners so you can avoid getting involved too deeply with someone who just isn't healthy or good for you.
As you get healthier, one of the best benefits is to recognize you don't have to stay in an unhealthy relationship or try to fix an unhealthy person.
Instead, you can focus on living a healthy lifestyle, and be open to the right kinds of relationships rather than staying stuck in a relationship you are made responsible for fixing.
You will discover a more confident and vivacious you.
You might have had a neglectful parent, or had a parent that abandoned the family when you were very young.
Your parent might have been there, but somehow, were abusive or were unable to connect with you on a healthy level.
While it can affect the relationships you choose in your adult years, it doesn't mean you are fated to be stuck in painful relationships for the rest of your life.
Young children as well as adults want answers too for why they went through what they went through.
When we reach adult years, we often want answers to why our relationship with our mothers or fathers were just so difficult.
We search for answers and often it plays out in choosing partners who are bad for us.
They abuse you, reject you, or abandon you just as your parent did.
Many internalize that something is wrong with them, rather than the parent having an inability to parent them properly.
When a father or mother abuses, abandons or neglects a child, it is often a reflection of defects in that parent.
A young child isn't able to understand that, but instead internalizes it as something wrong with him or her to elicit that kind of reaction from the parent.
Yes, any parent will tell you that parenting is challenging.
Here, I'm referring to the possibilities that your parent also experienced abuse or neglect while they were a child.
In turn, they repeated what they knew upon you.
Here's what's different, while you may not have gotten to chose how your childhood turned out, you can choose how you want your adulthood to be like.
Good and sound therapy will often have an influential part in recognizing and preventing future unhappy relationships by unfolding and bringing to light ingrained unhealthy patterns in relationships.
You can not adjust what you do not recognize as unhealthy.
When you see what's been unhealthy, you are also empowered to throw out those styles of relating that hindered you.
You might have also had very little experience with asking for your needs to be met, and voicing what those needs are.
All healthy relationships have a dynamic of give and take.
Therapy often gives a place for exploring what that might look like or sound like.
An attuned therapist will also help challenge some of the mindsets that keep you from progressing forward.
Our mindsets are powerful and play a major role in how we relate to others.
Limiting mindsets will make you believe that you don't deserve to be treated with respect and care.
It can also make you believe that there's no one else if you end the relationship that's causing you a lot of pain.
Throughout the therapy process, you will also begin to recognize 'red flags' in behaviors and in potential partners so you can avoid getting involved too deeply with someone who just isn't healthy or good for you.
As you get healthier, one of the best benefits is to recognize you don't have to stay in an unhealthy relationship or try to fix an unhealthy person.
Instead, you can focus on living a healthy lifestyle, and be open to the right kinds of relationships rather than staying stuck in a relationship you are made responsible for fixing.
You will discover a more confident and vivacious you.
SHARE
