Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a woman's life. After divorce, most women continue to be dependent for their survival either on their ex-husbands in the form of support payments, or on the state in the form of welfare. Neither of these options allows women to attain economic self-sufficiency following divorce and both continue a dynamic of dependency reminiscent of the marriage relationship for many. It is of the utmost importance that when such a pain descends upon you, you should realize that you can recover. The following information may help you get rid of this pain.
Properly control your emotion. After breaking up, you may feel angry, guilty, upset and frustrated. There feeling might be appearing to grow stronger with each passing day. These feelings are persistent and are even threatening to lead you towards a depression. Therefore, you have to control these feelings and adjust yourself to the changing situation, through which you can restart your happy life. In addition, your children are deeply hurt by the divorce. They need your help and you can help them only if you deal with your emotions. So stop feeling victimized, change your thought process by creating a new self-image of yourself.
After a divorce you can give yourself a break. Many women feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time, such as working overtime or cleaning the house from top to bottom, but let this time also include pampering yourself. Barter with a friend or neighbor to watch your children or leave work a few minutes early so you can stop to sit on a park bench long enough to get that sense of the unique and special you. Take this time to experience life without feeling like a wife, mother, sister or daughter... simply you!
Once you have regained control of yourself, you can turn your concentration on to other important issues that require your attention like personal safety, rebuilding career and handling personal finances. Those may cost most of your energy and time, which can help you forget the sadness. However, do not be in a hurry to find someone to remarry. Remarriage, immediately after divorce, is not advisable.
Learn to handle your finances well. Apart from the emotional turmoil, you may experience the financial difficulty. In martial phase, two persons' income meets a household or your husband can provide you. But after the divorce, you must support yourself. Your finances have to be managed well to meet the current and future requirements. Work hard to make yourself economically stronger. Try to find employment if you had been a 'stay at home mom.' Rebuild your career that might have been interspersed by breaks while you cared for your children.
Divorce is not the end of life. Begin by discovering your lost self. Recollect your premarital years and try to be the person you once were.
Properly control your emotion. After breaking up, you may feel angry, guilty, upset and frustrated. There feeling might be appearing to grow stronger with each passing day. These feelings are persistent and are even threatening to lead you towards a depression. Therefore, you have to control these feelings and adjust yourself to the changing situation, through which you can restart your happy life. In addition, your children are deeply hurt by the divorce. They need your help and you can help them only if you deal with your emotions. So stop feeling victimized, change your thought process by creating a new self-image of yourself.
After a divorce you can give yourself a break. Many women feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time, such as working overtime or cleaning the house from top to bottom, but let this time also include pampering yourself. Barter with a friend or neighbor to watch your children or leave work a few minutes early so you can stop to sit on a park bench long enough to get that sense of the unique and special you. Take this time to experience life without feeling like a wife, mother, sister or daughter... simply you!
Once you have regained control of yourself, you can turn your concentration on to other important issues that require your attention like personal safety, rebuilding career and handling personal finances. Those may cost most of your energy and time, which can help you forget the sadness. However, do not be in a hurry to find someone to remarry. Remarriage, immediately after divorce, is not advisable.
Learn to handle your finances well. Apart from the emotional turmoil, you may experience the financial difficulty. In martial phase, two persons' income meets a household or your husband can provide you. But after the divorce, you must support yourself. Your finances have to be managed well to meet the current and future requirements. Work hard to make yourself economically stronger. Try to find employment if you had been a 'stay at home mom.' Rebuild your career that might have been interspersed by breaks while you cared for your children.
Divorce is not the end of life. Begin by discovering your lost self. Recollect your premarital years and try to be the person you once were.
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