I am sure you get tired of hearing that you just need to communicate better to fix your relationship problems. Unfortunately, it is well researched that hurt feelings and arguments are usually because we really don't understand where our partner is coming from. We all feel hurt and unappreciated from time to time and we get so caught up in our own busy lives, we often fail to really hear what is behind our partners concerns.
When we don't communicate well … it usually means we don't listen well. How do we get our spouse to really hear us because the continual state of frustration and repressed anger can be the poison that ruins a marriage.
Often it is something minor that causes the eruption but really it was the lack of communication or the true understanding of the hurt feelings that is the true problem.
Do you and your spouse find it difficult to have a complete conversation without leaving the conflict in anger and unresolved. The emotional buttons that we push in our marriage is not how we should communicate.
Learning to communicate effectively can really help us fix our marriage problems. We have to work to be fully attentive and really understand what underlies the problems. We have to be committed to step back from our own anger and emotions and try to feel empathy towards our spouse even when we want to shake them. It is one of the hardest things to do in this world … but if you can find a way to listen, open your heart and really try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then I am confident that connection and intimacy will be found.
Some communication blocks to look out for are sighing and rolling your eyes when your spouse in trying to explain their viewpoint. Not stopping to listen to your spouse when they are bringing forward a real issue can be a problem to fixing your marriage. Make eye contact and try to really understand how or why they are feeling that way. Try to make an agreement to hear each other out before you inject your side of the story.
It has been quoted that "for every minute you are angry with someone, you lose sixty seconds of happiness that you can never get back." Sometimes anger is good but sometimes it is overused.
True connection, friendship and love can be hard to come by in this world. Don't you think that you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to insure that you have quality communication in your relationship.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give."
If the only thing you give in your relationship over the next month is good communication … you will be amazed at the positive effects. If someone asked me what one thing they could do to fix their marriage, I would definitely say to learn the secrets of marriage communication. In fact I have articles and a free mini-course that spends a great deal of time on communication.
When we don't communicate well … it usually means we don't listen well. How do we get our spouse to really hear us because the continual state of frustration and repressed anger can be the poison that ruins a marriage.
Often it is something minor that causes the eruption but really it was the lack of communication or the true understanding of the hurt feelings that is the true problem.
Do you and your spouse find it difficult to have a complete conversation without leaving the conflict in anger and unresolved. The emotional buttons that we push in our marriage is not how we should communicate.
Learning to communicate effectively can really help us fix our marriage problems. We have to work to be fully attentive and really understand what underlies the problems. We have to be committed to step back from our own anger and emotions and try to feel empathy towards our spouse even when we want to shake them. It is one of the hardest things to do in this world … but if you can find a way to listen, open your heart and really try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner, then I am confident that connection and intimacy will be found.
Some communication blocks to look out for are sighing and rolling your eyes when your spouse in trying to explain their viewpoint. Not stopping to listen to your spouse when they are bringing forward a real issue can be a problem to fixing your marriage. Make eye contact and try to really understand how or why they are feeling that way. Try to make an agreement to hear each other out before you inject your side of the story.
It has been quoted that "for every minute you are angry with someone, you lose sixty seconds of happiness that you can never get back." Sometimes anger is good but sometimes it is overused.
True connection, friendship and love can be hard to come by in this world. Don't you think that you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to insure that you have quality communication in your relationship.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give."
If the only thing you give in your relationship over the next month is good communication … you will be amazed at the positive effects. If someone asked me what one thing they could do to fix their marriage, I would definitely say to learn the secrets of marriage communication. In fact I have articles and a free mini-course that spends a great deal of time on communication.
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