Divorce can be difficult to accept.
Doctors tell us it puts major stress on the body - but you've come to it, it was probably her choice (women file for divorce twice as often as men), and you have to deal with it.
The biggest problem men have in divorce is pushing emotions back and getting their head in the game.
Sometimes divorces are won or lost just at this point.
You talk to your family and friends - you maybe even try therapy.
Then of course, are all the books, magazines, and online articles like this one.
Yet all the wishn' and hopen' and you ask how could this happen to me? You get angry, you sulk, threaten, protest, cajole, criticize, browbeat, beg, and some men stalk.
There is no bigger losing strategy than all of that.
If you still have hopes of getting her back with that approach she will come to see you as someone to be feared and get away from or as a sniveling idiot, not a man to be involved with.
The judge involved with the case will see you that way as well, either way you lose.
Face it, at some point you got out of step with each other.
You lost the motivation to work together and unhappiness wins everyone is disillusioned.
Just get ready because divorce is a big disillusion too but there it is.
No matter how it's going to turn out whether in divorce court or a miracle reconciliation the best thing you can do is be straight forward and protect your interests.
It is not the time to either threaten or just give in.
It is the time to look to yourself and have the confidence that you can gain by planning with some real information.
The fact remains that divorce is in the works and you have to act in a sane confident mannor and protect yourself.
Even if part of you is saying lets get together, still you must work the ugly divorce process and make it work for you.
You need a life and you need to be sure you get out of this divorce the things you need for it.
You need to learn the strategies to handle splitting up the houses, cars, money, children, and the rest.
And no matter what you might think or feel about her, she is somewhere planning how to take as much of this stuff away from you as she can.
You need to protect yourself from this and from ongoing open ended financial burdens.
So how do you do this? You find resources that will let you take in the process and how it works.
Information that allows you to plan and manage your divorce.
Information that allows you to plan ahead and protect yourself.
Doctors tell us it puts major stress on the body - but you've come to it, it was probably her choice (women file for divorce twice as often as men), and you have to deal with it.
The biggest problem men have in divorce is pushing emotions back and getting their head in the game.
Sometimes divorces are won or lost just at this point.
You talk to your family and friends - you maybe even try therapy.
Then of course, are all the books, magazines, and online articles like this one.
Yet all the wishn' and hopen' and you ask how could this happen to me? You get angry, you sulk, threaten, protest, cajole, criticize, browbeat, beg, and some men stalk.
There is no bigger losing strategy than all of that.
If you still have hopes of getting her back with that approach she will come to see you as someone to be feared and get away from or as a sniveling idiot, not a man to be involved with.
The judge involved with the case will see you that way as well, either way you lose.
Face it, at some point you got out of step with each other.
You lost the motivation to work together and unhappiness wins everyone is disillusioned.
Just get ready because divorce is a big disillusion too but there it is.
No matter how it's going to turn out whether in divorce court or a miracle reconciliation the best thing you can do is be straight forward and protect your interests.
It is not the time to either threaten or just give in.
It is the time to look to yourself and have the confidence that you can gain by planning with some real information.
The fact remains that divorce is in the works and you have to act in a sane confident mannor and protect yourself.
Even if part of you is saying lets get together, still you must work the ugly divorce process and make it work for you.
You need a life and you need to be sure you get out of this divorce the things you need for it.
You need to learn the strategies to handle splitting up the houses, cars, money, children, and the rest.
And no matter what you might think or feel about her, she is somewhere planning how to take as much of this stuff away from you as she can.
You need to protect yourself from this and from ongoing open ended financial burdens.
So how do you do this? You find resources that will let you take in the process and how it works.
Information that allows you to plan and manage your divorce.
Information that allows you to plan ahead and protect yourself.
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