Focusing on the "Don'ts" in life gives these thoughts and actions energy.
"I don't want to be late, I don't want to gain weight, I don't want to get pulled over," (I can hear the sirens roaring as I write this!) The list of "don't want" negative self- talk goes on and on.
This self-talk is costly.
It attracts negative energy into your life.
And energy is Power! Focusing on "do's" or positive actions, brings pure, positive energy into your life, and, in this case, into your marriage.
Here are the Top 3 Do's for married couples or life partners: 1.
DO express gratitude for your spouse.
2.
DO be passionately involved with each other every day.
3.
DO be present and aware.
Let's begin with Number 1, expressing gratitude for your spouse.
It's easy to list the gripes.
Chatting with friends about what's bothering you about your mate will fuel the fire of the negative situation.
Instead, notice your partner's great qualities.
This takes thoughtfulness, which in itself is a precious gift to give your spouse.
Lavish him with appreciation.
Douse her in words of admiration.
Giving the gift of noticing the good we see in others is a must in creating a great marriage.
Next, we'll delve into the importance of being passionately involved with your spouse.
Rather than wait for a weekend date night or monthly outing, create the time and space to BE in one another's presence.
Talk with, listen to, touch, beam at, and soak in, this other human who chose to share his or her life with you.
Do this often, many times daily.
When we care enough to make time to be together, we send a strong message of devotion to our mate.
Being involved with your spouse is a key to marital greatness.
And last, be present and aware.
For your marriage to achieve greatness, you must be in attendance! That means your self-talk must hush.
Thinking of emptying the trash, paying the bills, and returning calls while with your mate will zap all intimate connection from your marriage.
A powerful technique to bring your attention to your marriage is to start with noticing your breath.
Breathe deeply.
At the same time, notice the feeling of your feet planted on the earth.
A brief exercise like this one will clear your mind so you can be fully present with your mate.
It takes practice to be present.
Small doses of presence are great gifts to your marriage.
Creating and maintaining a great marriage is easy.
The first step is gratitude.
Notice the good in your mate.
The caring acts, the generous offers, the gentle guidance.
You can find what to be grateful for.
Express your gratitude.
It's your key to a great marriage.
"I don't want to be late, I don't want to gain weight, I don't want to get pulled over," (I can hear the sirens roaring as I write this!) The list of "don't want" negative self- talk goes on and on.
This self-talk is costly.
It attracts negative energy into your life.
And energy is Power! Focusing on "do's" or positive actions, brings pure, positive energy into your life, and, in this case, into your marriage.
Here are the Top 3 Do's for married couples or life partners: 1.
DO express gratitude for your spouse.
2.
DO be passionately involved with each other every day.
3.
DO be present and aware.
Let's begin with Number 1, expressing gratitude for your spouse.
It's easy to list the gripes.
Chatting with friends about what's bothering you about your mate will fuel the fire of the negative situation.
Instead, notice your partner's great qualities.
This takes thoughtfulness, which in itself is a precious gift to give your spouse.
Lavish him with appreciation.
Douse her in words of admiration.
Giving the gift of noticing the good we see in others is a must in creating a great marriage.
Next, we'll delve into the importance of being passionately involved with your spouse.
Rather than wait for a weekend date night or monthly outing, create the time and space to BE in one another's presence.
Talk with, listen to, touch, beam at, and soak in, this other human who chose to share his or her life with you.
Do this often, many times daily.
When we care enough to make time to be together, we send a strong message of devotion to our mate.
Being involved with your spouse is a key to marital greatness.
And last, be present and aware.
For your marriage to achieve greatness, you must be in attendance! That means your self-talk must hush.
Thinking of emptying the trash, paying the bills, and returning calls while with your mate will zap all intimate connection from your marriage.
A powerful technique to bring your attention to your marriage is to start with noticing your breath.
Breathe deeply.
At the same time, notice the feeling of your feet planted on the earth.
A brief exercise like this one will clear your mind so you can be fully present with your mate.
It takes practice to be present.
Small doses of presence are great gifts to your marriage.
Creating and maintaining a great marriage is easy.
The first step is gratitude.
Notice the good in your mate.
The caring acts, the generous offers, the gentle guidance.
You can find what to be grateful for.
Express your gratitude.
It's your key to a great marriage.
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