Married couples will usually claim that they have chosen divorce as the last option.
But in most of the cases, this may not be the reality.
I don't mean to say that people readily jump to divorce, the moment they face a problem in their marriage.
But they do not explore the other options fully.
This can be due to lack of awareness or lack of patience.
At some stage, your mind may get conditioned to the option of divorce.
Once this happens, your thinking will become limited and you are likely to lose awareness of other options available.
Moreover, sometimes, people are in a hurry to get over the situation and find divorce as an easy way out of the situation.
Yet the very concept of divorce is looked with disapproval by many people.
You hate something and then go about choosing the very thing you hate, under the excuse that you have no other alternative! Divorce is considered the best and only option in some cases.
For example, if your spouse has cheated you by having a relationship with another person, you may feel that there is nothing else to be done except to go for a legal separation.
But even in this kind of a situation, divorce may not be desirable.
If you think divorce is the only way out, ask yourself a couple of questions: 1) What are you seeking to accomplish through divorce? Many people may not have a clear answer to this question.
Divorce is thought of as a solution to the problems faced in the marriage.
But how does it solve the problem?.
It only gives you an escape route.
Escaping from a problem is not the same as solving it.
If you can't think of any solution to the problem immediately, you can choose to live with the problem from sometime.
Living with a problem may facilitate your finding a solution after some time.
Anyway, you don't lose anything.
You only have to bear with the inconvenience created by the problem.
Since the inconvenience is likely to be at the mental level, all you need is a mental make up to accept the situation as it is and wait for sometime to find out whether any solution is possible.
Divorce can be considered at any time in future.
2) Think about your life after divorce: You know that this is a reality you have to face.
Ask yourself honestly what options you have post-divorce.
Will you be able to find another partner? If so, can you expect a smooth life free from problems? Do not be carried away by wishful thinking.
Thinking on these lines and finding some realistic answers will help you decide whether post-divorce, your life will be better.
If you really believe that getting divorce will open the doors to you for a happier and more fulfilling life, you can exercise the option.
But in most of the cases, this may not be the reality.
I don't mean to say that people readily jump to divorce, the moment they face a problem in their marriage.
But they do not explore the other options fully.
This can be due to lack of awareness or lack of patience.
At some stage, your mind may get conditioned to the option of divorce.
Once this happens, your thinking will become limited and you are likely to lose awareness of other options available.
Moreover, sometimes, people are in a hurry to get over the situation and find divorce as an easy way out of the situation.
Yet the very concept of divorce is looked with disapproval by many people.
You hate something and then go about choosing the very thing you hate, under the excuse that you have no other alternative! Divorce is considered the best and only option in some cases.
For example, if your spouse has cheated you by having a relationship with another person, you may feel that there is nothing else to be done except to go for a legal separation.
But even in this kind of a situation, divorce may not be desirable.
If you think divorce is the only way out, ask yourself a couple of questions: 1) What are you seeking to accomplish through divorce? Many people may not have a clear answer to this question.
Divorce is thought of as a solution to the problems faced in the marriage.
But how does it solve the problem?.
It only gives you an escape route.
Escaping from a problem is not the same as solving it.
If you can't think of any solution to the problem immediately, you can choose to live with the problem from sometime.
Living with a problem may facilitate your finding a solution after some time.
Anyway, you don't lose anything.
You only have to bear with the inconvenience created by the problem.
Since the inconvenience is likely to be at the mental level, all you need is a mental make up to accept the situation as it is and wait for sometime to find out whether any solution is possible.
Divorce can be considered at any time in future.
2) Think about your life after divorce: You know that this is a reality you have to face.
Ask yourself honestly what options you have post-divorce.
Will you be able to find another partner? If so, can you expect a smooth life free from problems? Do not be carried away by wishful thinking.
Thinking on these lines and finding some realistic answers will help you decide whether post-divorce, your life will be better.
If you really believe that getting divorce will open the doors to you for a happier and more fulfilling life, you can exercise the option.
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