Many times when we're faced with something as life changing as a potential divorce, it can lead to a number of destructive behaviors that you don't even realize you're doing at the time.
And, most of the time it's too late when we actually see what it's been doing to our marriage.
When you think about destructive behavior, don't fall under the false impression that this is only of a physical nature, but more so of an emotional nature.
Is your marriage at risk of being another casualty of these kinds of destructive behaviors?

1. Fear - It's perfectly natural to be afraid of losing one of the most if not the most important relationship in your life right now.
   What's not OK, is how this fear can control you.
   It may increase your chance of hasty decision making that isn't well thought out.
   
2. Panicked - You may feel as if you're running out of time or that you're not doing enough.
   This can lead you to doing many things that you'll later regret.
   In fact, it may lead to you doing many outlandish things.
   Many bad decisions in marriage are made in this state of mind.
   You're not thinking very clearly in this state and your overwhelming desire to do something will over ride your logic in this stage.
   
3. Jealousy - You may suspect something is going on as the real reason as to why your marriage may be ending.
   But, do you know for sure? It doesn't pay off to just assume and then fall prey to the feelings this brings about without knowing for certain.
   Even so, if you let this feeling take you over it will lead to both extreme emotional damage to your spouse and potentially physical damage as well.
   This one alone can drive the final nail in any marriage seemingly on the rocks.
   
4. "Big headed-ness" or Egotistical - Maybe you think that your the cat's meow or you have to be the big shot.
   That you won't succumb to anything your spouse demands.
   You may even feel like you have something to prove by not giving in.
   This type of "my way or the highway" thinking will not help you in the slightest.
   In fact, it has been the demise of many marriages that could have been saved if the spouse would have just compromised a little bit instead of thinking they were always right.
   

I realize that this may be just a short list and there are many more, but they are some the most common.
The point is, pay careful attention to how you're acting right now.
Don't just give it a quick once over, but really sit there and think about it for a minute.
Retrace your steps, arguments and how you were behaving at the time.
Was it really the right thing to do? Could you have said or done something different that might have changed everything? This will help you to recognize some of these destructive behaviors as they arise and can aid you in eliminating them completely from the equation by understanding how they negatively impact your efforts to save your marriage.
It really does wonders when trying to save your marriage to know what can make your situation worse and how to avoid it.
You can then focus on the main problem in your marriage, while not creating anymore.