I recently read a great article about parents who excuse their child's behavior because he is a boy.
You know, the parents who say, "He's just being a boy.
" or "Boys will be boys.
" After the child knocked over a chair, hit another child over the head, and ran off when his mom or dad called him over to talk to him.
Fortunately, I do not know many people like that, although I do know of them and see them lurking around.
This is not a helpful or needed belief.
Although our society, in general, does condone misbehaviors from boys, most parents are getting real and realizing that many gender differences are learned.
That's right, just like everything else, we learn these beliefs from our parents and from society.
(Just think about it for a second, if boys were 'wired' to play with cars and not dolls, what did they play with 200 years ago before cars were invented?) We teach them (through role modeling and body language) what is appropriate and what is not.
Do we need to continue to pass this belief to our children? No! What people need to realize that we can change our beliefs.
We do not have to be held prisoner to undesirable and limiting beliefs.
We can let them go.
And by letting them go we will help others to do the same (as Joe Vitale says, "Clean, clean, clean [our negative beliefs]).
Every time we let go a negative, limiting belief there is someone watching, (in our circle of friends, or a relative or neighbor) in which we are helping because we are showing them that change is possible; that boys can be raise to be gentle AND strong/successful/manly.
That the only thing holding us back is ourselves...
as Miguel Ruiz would say, our agreements our holding us back.
Break those little, unwanted agreements and you will live heaven on earth...
and teach your kids a gentler way.
It is up to you, agreement by agreement to continue the evolution to create more balanced men and women.
After all, is the "boy still just being a boy" when later in life he bully others at school or vandalizes a neighborhood park or hits his wife at home.
If we don't want them to fight when they are 16 years old, then we must teacher this when they are 6 years old.
By giving your children boundaries you are teaching them love, for themselves and for others.
You know, the parents who say, "He's just being a boy.
" or "Boys will be boys.
" After the child knocked over a chair, hit another child over the head, and ran off when his mom or dad called him over to talk to him.
Fortunately, I do not know many people like that, although I do know of them and see them lurking around.
This is not a helpful or needed belief.
Although our society, in general, does condone misbehaviors from boys, most parents are getting real and realizing that many gender differences are learned.
That's right, just like everything else, we learn these beliefs from our parents and from society.
(Just think about it for a second, if boys were 'wired' to play with cars and not dolls, what did they play with 200 years ago before cars were invented?) We teach them (through role modeling and body language) what is appropriate and what is not.
Do we need to continue to pass this belief to our children? No! What people need to realize that we can change our beliefs.
We do not have to be held prisoner to undesirable and limiting beliefs.
We can let them go.
And by letting them go we will help others to do the same (as Joe Vitale says, "Clean, clean, clean [our negative beliefs]).
Every time we let go a negative, limiting belief there is someone watching, (in our circle of friends, or a relative or neighbor) in which we are helping because we are showing them that change is possible; that boys can be raise to be gentle AND strong/successful/manly.
That the only thing holding us back is ourselves...
as Miguel Ruiz would say, our agreements our holding us back.
Break those little, unwanted agreements and you will live heaven on earth...
and teach your kids a gentler way.
It is up to you, agreement by agreement to continue the evolution to create more balanced men and women.
After all, is the "boy still just being a boy" when later in life he bully others at school or vandalizes a neighborhood park or hits his wife at home.
If we don't want them to fight when they are 16 years old, then we must teacher this when they are 6 years old.
By giving your children boundaries you are teaching them love, for themselves and for others.
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