There is a line in many romance novels that usually states something like the following: "You complete me.
" I suppose that most lovers feel this kind of emotion when in the throes of romantic love.
I have found myself there as well, many years ago.
It is a sweet feeling of being filled up.
Like a glass that is half full.
Then that glass finds a source to add more to it until its rim is topped and overflowing.
Soon enough, however, that which fills the glass begins to evaporate.
It recedes from the rim.
The glass becomes three-quarters full; then back to one half.
Long enough and that which had filled the glass evaporates entirely.
What is the glass left with, then? Itself.
If the glass is right-thinking, it will come to see that it is complete without any particular substance filling it.
The glass will know that it is complete within itself.
The glass was made to be a vessel to carry other substances.
It does need those other fluids to be complete as a glass.
It is complete as a vessel.
You can and need to think of yourself in the same way.
You were created, you came into being as you.
You are complete.
If you look for other people or events to make you whole, you have missed the importance of you.
Therefore, you do not need to surround yourself with friends who you think will you whole.
You are whole to begin with.
From your own completeness, you develop friendships and relationships that not be based in need.
Instead they are based in mutual sharing of complete lives.
If you seek friendships to complete yourself, you actually suck the life out of the friendship.
The other person, whom you want as a friend, will soon feel within themselves as if they are being consumed by your relationship with them.
They will become uncomfortable in the relationship they have with you.
They will need to pull away from you in order to survive within themselves.
Not all of us are at the same level of wholeness within ourselves.
Most are still striving to accomplish wholeness within.
So, remember to bring as much wholeness as you have at the moment to each relationship.
In this way you will better maintain your relationships and help yourself grow into the consummate being you already are, but have not yet realized.
In other words, don't suck the life out your relationships.
Strive to add your full self, as you know it in that moment, to every relationship.
" I suppose that most lovers feel this kind of emotion when in the throes of romantic love.
I have found myself there as well, many years ago.
It is a sweet feeling of being filled up.
Like a glass that is half full.
Then that glass finds a source to add more to it until its rim is topped and overflowing.
Soon enough, however, that which fills the glass begins to evaporate.
It recedes from the rim.
The glass becomes three-quarters full; then back to one half.
Long enough and that which had filled the glass evaporates entirely.
What is the glass left with, then? Itself.
If the glass is right-thinking, it will come to see that it is complete without any particular substance filling it.
The glass will know that it is complete within itself.
The glass was made to be a vessel to carry other substances.
It does need those other fluids to be complete as a glass.
It is complete as a vessel.
You can and need to think of yourself in the same way.
You were created, you came into being as you.
You are complete.
If you look for other people or events to make you whole, you have missed the importance of you.
Therefore, you do not need to surround yourself with friends who you think will you whole.
You are whole to begin with.
From your own completeness, you develop friendships and relationships that not be based in need.
Instead they are based in mutual sharing of complete lives.
If you seek friendships to complete yourself, you actually suck the life out of the friendship.
The other person, whom you want as a friend, will soon feel within themselves as if they are being consumed by your relationship with them.
They will become uncomfortable in the relationship they have with you.
They will need to pull away from you in order to survive within themselves.
Not all of us are at the same level of wholeness within ourselves.
Most are still striving to accomplish wholeness within.
So, remember to bring as much wholeness as you have at the moment to each relationship.
In this way you will better maintain your relationships and help yourself grow into the consummate being you already are, but have not yet realized.
In other words, don't suck the life out your relationships.
Strive to add your full self, as you know it in that moment, to every relationship.
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