Your husband says you should divorce, but you don't want to.
Let me cut to the chase.
I have saved my own marriage, and I did it after someone taught me a key fact: "There is no way to save a marriage, or even maintain a marriage; by endless compromise.
" This method of making marriages last has its roots in psychology and actual logic.
It means roughly this: Communication is the key to a marriage, but this does not mean that you can talk your way out of everything.
Sure, when your marriage is just another marriage with problems and fights every now and then, talking and compromising is the way to go to solve your marriage problems.
But if your marriage is completely failing and divorce is clearly coming, these don't work.
To make matters clearer, I want to talk about my own marriage a bit.
When my marriage was heading for divorce, I too wondered what you do when your husband says you should divorce.
Let's think about the "communication" method: "Reach out to your spouse, talk to him about the issues, compromise, save your marriage".
Would this work? My husband wanted a divorce and I didn't.
We both knew these.
So, a "compromise" would mean "total submission" on my part because it would only consist of begging.
He wanted a divorce anyway, so why should he want a compromise? It would be "endless compromise and self sacrifice" on my part.
This cannot work.
So, what does work? The relationship game has its rules.
It also has its rules about what to do when your husband says you should divorce: You make your husband fall in love with you again by playing the game according to its rules: "People want what they can't get".
You must act so that you are less accessible for your husband.
You act so that your husband can't take you for granted anymore.
You wouldn't believe how incredible this works.