The unrealistic expectations married couples often have of one another is one of the major causes of conflicts in marriage.
A wife that is constantly bombarding her husband with unrealistic demands and complaints can only expect him to withdraw, retreat or retaliate.
Many women are not even aware of the negative impact their unrealistic expectations and demands has on their husbands and marriage.
Lots of women are always complaining that their husband doesn't help them around the house, or that he doesn't talk enough, or doesn't help out with the children or isn't romantic and doesn't do enough to make them happy.
It is good and normal to expect your husband to care and listen and help you out with the children and around the house, however when these expectations are not met the result is quarreling and arguments.
You might have to come to terms with the fact that your husband might not always do the things you expect him to do because you both have different priorities.
What's important and immediate to him might be different to what's priority to you.
That doesn't mean that he doesn't care about your needs it just means he might be a bit casual about things that are of great concern to you.
The likelihood is that you also might be casual about things that are important to him without even knowing.
You also cannot expect your husband to meet all your expectations, nobody is perfect not even you, if you are honest with yourself, you probably don't do every single thing that your husband expects of you.
Your husband is not God, Only God can bring you total satisfaction, only God has the power to meet all your needs.
The interesting thing about God also is that God doesn't always do things when we want him to, he does them when the time is right and he might not even do them at all if our intentions are wrong.
So if even God will sometimes not give you what you want, why expect anything more from your husband who is a mere man.
The sad thing is that some wives begin to get an attitude with their husbands, they complain and moan some even go as far as calling their husbands names not realizing that this will only make him feel like a failure and in turn he will distance himself from you, he will pull away because he doesn't feel celebrated and respected and every man has a need to feel celebrated and respected.
Some wives also resort to being harsh and hurtful towards their husband; they snap and yell at their husband all because they feel he is not meeting their need.
This is not the way to get what you want.
Instead of being contentious, a wife with wisdom will learn to be content with the circumstance while communicating her needs, desires and expectations to her husbands with love and patience.
She will continue to love her husband and help him to become more of the kind of man she wants him to be by loving him not belittling him.
Remember that God created a woman to be a helper to a man not a destroyer, a wife and not a knife.
A wife that is constantly bombarding her husband with unrealistic demands and complaints can only expect him to withdraw, retreat or retaliate.
Many women are not even aware of the negative impact their unrealistic expectations and demands has on their husbands and marriage.
Lots of women are always complaining that their husband doesn't help them around the house, or that he doesn't talk enough, or doesn't help out with the children or isn't romantic and doesn't do enough to make them happy.
It is good and normal to expect your husband to care and listen and help you out with the children and around the house, however when these expectations are not met the result is quarreling and arguments.
You might have to come to terms with the fact that your husband might not always do the things you expect him to do because you both have different priorities.
What's important and immediate to him might be different to what's priority to you.
That doesn't mean that he doesn't care about your needs it just means he might be a bit casual about things that are of great concern to you.
The likelihood is that you also might be casual about things that are important to him without even knowing.
You also cannot expect your husband to meet all your expectations, nobody is perfect not even you, if you are honest with yourself, you probably don't do every single thing that your husband expects of you.
Your husband is not God, Only God can bring you total satisfaction, only God has the power to meet all your needs.
The interesting thing about God also is that God doesn't always do things when we want him to, he does them when the time is right and he might not even do them at all if our intentions are wrong.
So if even God will sometimes not give you what you want, why expect anything more from your husband who is a mere man.
The sad thing is that some wives begin to get an attitude with their husbands, they complain and moan some even go as far as calling their husbands names not realizing that this will only make him feel like a failure and in turn he will distance himself from you, he will pull away because he doesn't feel celebrated and respected and every man has a need to feel celebrated and respected.
Some wives also resort to being harsh and hurtful towards their husband; they snap and yell at their husband all because they feel he is not meeting their need.
This is not the way to get what you want.
Instead of being contentious, a wife with wisdom will learn to be content with the circumstance while communicating her needs, desires and expectations to her husbands with love and patience.
She will continue to love her husband and help him to become more of the kind of man she wants him to be by loving him not belittling him.
Remember that God created a woman to be a helper to a man not a destroyer, a wife and not a knife.
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