Communication is said to be a dying art, perhaps that's a reason why divorce is on the rise. If you want to save your marriage then communication is an essential skill. Learn and practice a few skills and see where it can take your relationship.
If you want to save your marriage, one skill you will have to practice is communication. It would not be stretching things to say, no communication equals no marriage. Without the ability to convey to each other in a civil manner what you see as issues, how can you ever hope to resolve them?
Naturally, communication does not only involve the resolution of differences, it is also sharing joys, sorrows, and simple day-to-day thoughts with your partner. Sharing adds depth to any relationship and will help both partners really appreciate their spouse as they gradually unfold for each other. Good communication will probably show you a depth to your partner you never knew existed.
It is vitally important to maintain civility and respect for each other when discussing issues in your marriage. Flat out arguing and raising voices at one another will never resolve anything and will only serve to build barriers. You must be able to remain calm and carefully consider what you are hearing and never interrupt except for clarification. If your partner feels it necessary to raise an issue then there is usually a good reason for it even if it is hidden below the surface and not immediately visible. It is wisely said "Speak in haste, regret in leisure" -- choose your words carefully and THINK before you say them.
Rejection of your partners feelings by saying something like "You're wrong" or "You shouldn't feel like that" is the same as rejecting your partner. Instead of denial, try to find the root of the problem by asking questions to clarify the situation or show that your perception of the situation is different by starting with something like "I never realized you felt that way about..." and explain things from your point of view. Quite often you will find that an issue can be resolved with it ever developing into anything major simply by being willing to see it from your partners point of view.
It is surprising how an issue which seems small to one person can have an enormous effect on someone else. If you never find out the source of irritation because you cannot or will not communicate with your partner then an irritation can fester to the point of causing major stress within a relationship and perhaps lead to divorce.
Once you have a problem out in the open you are a long way towards solving it. Bottling it up and hoping it will go away on its own will be likely to cause resentment and breed more problems. With two like-minded people looking for a solution to a common problem your chances of finding a resolution are increased greatly. Every problem has its solution and communication will help you find it.
If you want to save your marriage, one skill you will have to practice is communication. It would not be stretching things to say, no communication equals no marriage. Without the ability to convey to each other in a civil manner what you see as issues, how can you ever hope to resolve them?
Naturally, communication does not only involve the resolution of differences, it is also sharing joys, sorrows, and simple day-to-day thoughts with your partner. Sharing adds depth to any relationship and will help both partners really appreciate their spouse as they gradually unfold for each other. Good communication will probably show you a depth to your partner you never knew existed.
It is vitally important to maintain civility and respect for each other when discussing issues in your marriage. Flat out arguing and raising voices at one another will never resolve anything and will only serve to build barriers. You must be able to remain calm and carefully consider what you are hearing and never interrupt except for clarification. If your partner feels it necessary to raise an issue then there is usually a good reason for it even if it is hidden below the surface and not immediately visible. It is wisely said "Speak in haste, regret in leisure" -- choose your words carefully and THINK before you say them.
Rejection of your partners feelings by saying something like "You're wrong" or "You shouldn't feel like that" is the same as rejecting your partner. Instead of denial, try to find the root of the problem by asking questions to clarify the situation or show that your perception of the situation is different by starting with something like "I never realized you felt that way about..." and explain things from your point of view. Quite often you will find that an issue can be resolved with it ever developing into anything major simply by being willing to see it from your partners point of view.
It is surprising how an issue which seems small to one person can have an enormous effect on someone else. If you never find out the source of irritation because you cannot or will not communicate with your partner then an irritation can fester to the point of causing major stress within a relationship and perhaps lead to divorce.
Once you have a problem out in the open you are a long way towards solving it. Bottling it up and hoping it will go away on its own will be likely to cause resentment and breed more problems. With two like-minded people looking for a solution to a common problem your chances of finding a resolution are increased greatly. Every problem has its solution and communication will help you find it.
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