Many people panic at the first signs that there is trouble in their marriage. In this case, one of the best ways to save a marriage is not panicking. If you panic that just puts more stress on your marriage. So both parties should know that the first element to saving their marriage is to remain calm. Maybe even take a time out until the panic disappears. If you can do this it will make it easier to talk.
When the marriage is having trouble, don't be afraid to talk about it. Really solve the problem. Do not just put a band-aid on it. It will just come back to haunt you again a few months down the road. As hard as communicating back and forth is hard for some people it is a definite must to save a marriage.
One of the other ways to save a marriage is to do what you say you are going to do. Do not make an empty promise just to appease your partner. Making a promise and not acting on it will start to bring up trust issues. If you push the marriage into trust issues it may be a lot more difficult to repair it.
Another one of the great ways to save a marriage is giving your partner space. If your husband is working on something in the garage, you can ask if he wants help. If he says no, don't try to interject yourself in what he is doing, especially if you know nothing about what it is he is doing. The same will go for him if his wife is in the kitchen cooking. Don't worry, marriage does allow for time being apart from one another. It just makes the time you are together that much nicer.
Make your decisions together. If you are going to make a major purchase make sure that you and your partner are both OK with it. If you don't respect your partner enough to talk about the purchase, you will not respect them when it comes to other parts of the marriage.
Finally, many times in a marriage both people have a need to win that argument. Learn how to be a good loser. Evaluate what the issue is. Decide if it is really that important or will really hurt you. If the issue will not destroy your well-being then lose. That sounds bad but it really isn't. Sometimes when you lose, you really win. On the other hand sometimes when you win at all costs you lose.
If you have tried all these ways to save a marriage and nothing is working it may be time to get some outside help. Seeking help from a certified marriage therapist is not an embarrassing thing to do. Actually it is a smart thing to do. She may find things out about your relationship that even you didn't know. So be open when you go there, don't point fingers and fight, learn from the experience.
When the marriage is having trouble, don't be afraid to talk about it. Really solve the problem. Do not just put a band-aid on it. It will just come back to haunt you again a few months down the road. As hard as communicating back and forth is hard for some people it is a definite must to save a marriage.
One of the other ways to save a marriage is to do what you say you are going to do. Do not make an empty promise just to appease your partner. Making a promise and not acting on it will start to bring up trust issues. If you push the marriage into trust issues it may be a lot more difficult to repair it.
Another one of the great ways to save a marriage is giving your partner space. If your husband is working on something in the garage, you can ask if he wants help. If he says no, don't try to interject yourself in what he is doing, especially if you know nothing about what it is he is doing. The same will go for him if his wife is in the kitchen cooking. Don't worry, marriage does allow for time being apart from one another. It just makes the time you are together that much nicer.
Make your decisions together. If you are going to make a major purchase make sure that you and your partner are both OK with it. If you don't respect your partner enough to talk about the purchase, you will not respect them when it comes to other parts of the marriage.
Finally, many times in a marriage both people have a need to win that argument. Learn how to be a good loser. Evaluate what the issue is. Decide if it is really that important or will really hurt you. If the issue will not destroy your well-being then lose. That sounds bad but it really isn't. Sometimes when you lose, you really win. On the other hand sometimes when you win at all costs you lose.
If you have tried all these ways to save a marriage and nothing is working it may be time to get some outside help. Seeking help from a certified marriage therapist is not an embarrassing thing to do. Actually it is a smart thing to do. She may find things out about your relationship that even you didn't know. So be open when you go there, don't point fingers and fight, learn from the experience.
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